Gaining An Appreciation For What You Have

Today I try to be grateful for what I have and then I try to be grateful for the bad things that I don’t have. This is the opposite of how I used to do things. I used to do things by being pissed off about what I didn’t have. It’s a completely different state of mind and yet all the fundamental tools are there.

The fundamental tools are imagining something that doesn’t already exist. Being thankful for what I don’t have requires me to imagine something that I could have and then to be thankful for it.

For example, I’m thankful that I’m not physically sick today. There’s debate on how sick I am mentally. I’m thankful that there’s help for me today for the mental and emotional challenges that I have. I’m thankful that I know I have help today. I’m grateful that I don’t have to practice being sick all day or most of the day today. I’m grateful that I know how I should feel normally and I should  feel happy and healthy. That’s my normal state of being now.

I’m grateful I can play video games today. I’m grateful that I’m not upset about something right now. That takes me imagining that I could be upset about something and seeing that that’s not how I am right now. These same skills work it’s just often for many of us, we program them the opposite way.

A lot of my life, I would say I’m pissed off because I have so many bills today. I don’t think I should have to pay the phone company this much based on what they do for me. I’m mad that I owe all this money and I don’t have this much in the bank. I would be mad about the things not happening.

I would say before when I was single, I was mad that I didn’t have a girlfriend. I just knew I’d be a lot happier if I had a girlfriend. Today, I’m grateful that I do have a wife and even if I didn’t I could be grateful to be single because there are ups and downs in every situation in life. I missed out on a lot of times I could’ve been happy as a single young man. because I was frustrated with someone. The amazing switch to see is that I would be mad that I was single and then I’d find a girl who would go out with me and I’d be mad that she was my girlfriend. I’d be mad that I couldn’t have a better girlfriend in one way or another.

It’s amazing how many times I went through the exact same illusion. How many times I went through the same misery and suffering. I thought that something I could get or some status I could have would make me happier. Then I would get it and all of the sudden whatever I was hoping for would become the source of my misery. It’s amazing how many times that happens to us in life and we just keep going and we don’t notice it.

I’m here talking about this today so you don’t have to spend so much time in life going through all the same things that I went through if you don’t want to. If you want to go through them, then that’s okay, too. You’re welcome to go through all the same things I went through and not learn anything from what I’ve done. I prefer to learn the easy way and if I can learn from someone else’s mistakes instead of making them myself, then I’m all for that. I’d much rather try to figure out what you’ve done that I can learn from then try to do it the hard way myself.

Today I’m grateful to have the chance to play this game with you. I used to feel pissed off that I wasn’t first in the game. I would say I should’ve been first and make up some story about why I wasn’t first.

Once you see that how you feel about your life has nothing to do with what’s going on in it then there’s opportunity for real change. There’s opportunity for happiness. As long as I think what’s going on in my life is responsible for my happiness I’m powerless to do anything about it. I’m powerless to feel any better. I’m powerless to see and feel any of the real lessons.

Today I pray to remember that I can choose to be thankful for what I have and thankful for what I don’t have. I pray to remember that I can choose to be pissed off about what I have and about what I don’t have. I pray today that I direct my energy in imagining what I could have to imagining the bad things I could have. I pray to be thankful for the good things I do have and for the challenges which give me the opportunity to learn and grow. I pray that you also have the same chance today to be grateful for what you have and what you don’t have. I hope you have a great day today, thanks for reading this. I’d love your feedback on this post.