What is the most powerful thing you can do to change your life? For me, I’ve found that it’s living one day at a time. Looking at life more like Groundhog Day than this long drawn out process with all these years, grades, things to do, casts, milestones, and ultimately caskets. The easiest way to live life is just one day at a time and to look at it, you don’t just have this whole long life filled with all these things you have to do. All you have to do is live this one day over and over and over again, just like Groundhog Day or the recent Tom Cruise movie I just saw did a good job with that, too.
One day at a time means you focus on the similarities between all of your days, you acknowledge that life is lived only today. That life in yesterday and tomorrow are imaginary. You’ve never lived any day in your life that hasn’t been any day except today. Even if you’re up past midnight and the clock changes, you’ll find yourself asking what day is it now. Your today has changed.
That’s really helpful for life because mostly, I feel like we focus on differences all the time. What’s unique about today? The thing is that makes it hard to live because there’s unique things about every day. If you try and look at all the unique things about all the days in your life, it get’s overwhelming. Your mind and my mind is programmed to do one day at a time, that’s what it can handle. It can’t handle trying to successfully give a talk next week, or trying to do something big like have a kid in a few months, like I’m going to do, or try and set up a business over the course of several years.
The mind does not have the capacity to do a good job at these tasks because it cannot process all of the data. There is an immense amount of data, an immense amount of sensory impressions, an immense amount of knowledge that is part of every single day. When you’re thinking ahead to things and trying to remember things, you’re using a small fraction of the data and it’s amazing, I listen to people try and explain these things in the past. You are trying to explain something in the past through 1% or less of the data. Usually, when I try and do that in my life, it doesn’t’ work very well.
In fact, even trying to explain today is challenging. The easy thing to do is give up what happened before, give up predicting what’s going o happen in the future, and focus on finding the similarities you have between every day because once you know the similarities of every day, then you have power to change. You have power to really set your life up in a way that works and that’s what I’m doing. I’ve realized all I really need to figure out is how to live today and I really only have to figure out that one day, that’s all I have to do. Now, each day, the form of it will change a little bit, but here’s the thing. If I know what’s likely to happen today. I also know what’s likely to happen tomorrow and what happened yesterday.
What do I mean by this? The day’s going to start with me waking up. Every day will start like that, I will wake up, that’s how it will begin. Something could happen in proximity to me waking up like an alarm or a doorbell ringing, but that doesn’t matter, the main thing is I wake up, that’s how every day begins. I’ll have every day conditioned with some pre-made mood from dreams or from a small thing going on. I know my mood will likely be a roll of the dice every morning. That means I don’t have to take it too seriously I kind of get stuck with a random mood in the morning. Then I know I need to try and do something every day right after I’ve got up to re-set my mood and get myself in the right frame of mind for the day.
That doesn’t matter where I’m at, what I’m doing, exactly how I woke up, what time it is. That, then, accounts for every little thing that could happen in life. I know once I get up, I need to intentionally do something to get my mood in the right place. That’s what I do, I eat because my body will often get in a bad mood if I don’t treat it right. Treating it right often includes eating in the morning so I get up and I eat something.
The next thing I do is take care of my mind and my spirit. I pray, I ask to be of service, of use in the universe and I remember to be grateful that I’m here today and to think about my health. Think about how I’m feeling because when I’m sick, I sure think about how I’m feeling. Therefore, when I’m feeling good, I should sure think about how I’m feeling also. Every day I get up and do these same things every day. That way, since I know I kind of get a random mood first thing in the morning, every day I do something to set my mood for the day. then after that, I have some things to do. I try and do something useful. I think these videos or podcasts episodes are useful based on what you’ve told me so I try and do one of these every morning or I try and do something else useful.
If I’m traveling, I will do something else useful and maybe it’s not make a video, but I try and do something useful because that’s very important. After I’ve set my mind right, it’s to follow through an action and do something useful.
Then, I continue to try and do that until it’s either time for exercise or lunch. The whenever those are done, then I have the opposite. If I exercise first, then I’ll eat. If I eat first, then I’ll try and exercise later and be active. Then at some point, I’ll call in and talk to the same few people every day. Then call and talk to some of the people I talk to each week, send text messages, and stay in touch with people.
Then I have a support group meeting. Or if I don’t have a support group meeting for that day, then I put more time and energy into talking to people around me. Then I make time for additional eating and some fun. Something that’s relaxing or something that is no pressure and no work and that can be watching a show with my wife. It could be playing video games, it could be doing something with the dogs. Then it’s time to go to bed. Then I wind down to go to bed. I try and not get all hyped up when I’m in bed so I try and brush my teeth and do some routines, and I’m cleaning up ceremoniously going to bed. Then I try and be grateful for that day.
You see, the main thing to figure out, is how to live that one day because that one day I just shared with you is every day. I have immense opportunity influence in my life if I can slightly modify about every day the system I use to live every single day. I have immense power to change my life. Things like losing weight. All I have to do is make slight adjustments to my daily eating system and I can have immense influence over my weight. My physical appearance, if I want to have more energy, all I have to do is make slight adjustments every day to my exercise system and look at it like a program. All I need to do really is just write a program for one day.
All I really need to do with my life is write a program for one day. It will handle anywhere I’m at, anything I have to do. Then I’m not likely to get too far out of line. For example, I know no matter what’s going on I must stop and pray in the morning, be grateful, and I must get something to eat. I don’t care what’s going on, I must do that or I will suffer. That’s now powerful living one day at a time is. There aren’t all these exceptions all the time. I take care of myself and then I can be of service to the people around me.
How many people have you seen in life not taking care of themselves, thinking they’re being useful and really their being a pain to everyone else? People running in to work in a hurry that haven’t eaten and certainly haven’t prayed, and that aren’t grateful for their life. They’re rushing around and causing traffic accidents. They’re coming into work and making every one irritable. They’re waiting hours to then try to eat lunch. It doesn’t take very many people living life like that to make all of the rest of us to have to deal with it. My thing is if I take care of myself each day, then I can also accept when other people aren’t taking care of themselves. The best I can do for people that aren’t taking care of themselves is to be a role model. Saying “look, I’m taking care of myself. This is what works for me.”
Most of my life I was that person running around, not taking care of themselves. When I was a police officer, I’d come straight in, not even had anything to eat be really hungry, really irritable, and then I’d have to go immediately as soon as we were out of role call as soon as to get something to eat. Here I am carrying a gun around, wearing a bulletproof vest, with the power to arrest people and I’m not even taking care of myself. That’s how I used to be.
That’s why I’m sharing this now because there are still a lot of people living like that and you have the opportunity to not live like that. All you have to do is program a formula, a system to live one day by and run that system every single day. It’ll handle good and bad feelings. It’ll handle, bad and good things happening in life. It will handle anything and the cool thing is the more refined you make the system, the more tolerant it is of deviance in the individual day. If something really bad happens, if I have a good system for living each day, then my system handles that, I don’t get out of sorts.
At the same time, if I don’t have a good system and something far out that happens will encourage me to look at it and find opportunities to make it better. That to me is a miracle, you don’t have to figure out all these things in life. You don’t have to understand all these things in life. You don’t have to understand your past and why it impacted how you are now. You don’t have to predict the future and know everything you’re going to do. All you have to do to have a great life is program a formula for how you’re going to live one day and then run that every day when you get up, you run your day formula. When you go to bed, you turn off. When you wake up, you run your day formula and that’s all you have to do and it’s a beautiful thing. I’ve prayed before this to be of service and of use to the universe. This is what has came out of it. I hope it is useful.
I pray today that I will always take time, especially now to look at my one day at a time formula and to make the best formula I can and to stick by that as close as I can each day. I pray that I will be of more service to others, that I need service and that I need love because I’ve certainly needed a lot of love and service in my life already. I hope to be part of the good, part of the tolerance, part of the help that’s out there. I pray that sharing this with you is useful for you in making a formula to automate your day. Thank you for sharing this with me and I’d love to know what you think. Have a great day.