Being the Best You by Being Present In Life

90% of life is just showing up.  In terms of success, having things go well, growth and anything else you want to happen.

What does this mean practically? It means that if you want to have a good relationship with your family or friends, just showing up is 90% of what you can do. Now, the other 10% would be in what you say, how you say it and how you act. 90% of the good you can do is just being there.

I try to talk to my mom a little bit every day even if  it isn’t for long or  it’s just a text, I try every day to show up. If you’re trying to get through a problem, in recovery or  dealing with depression, taking action is showing up. If you’re trying to lose weight, 90% could be tracking your calories. That’s a form of showing up. Going to the gym each day if you have a gym you can go to or taking a walk each day. Buying some fruits and vegetables could be another form of showing up.

Showing up somehow is putting effort every day into whatever health you’re working on. If it’s something you’re struggling with that you can use a support group like I do. Just showing up is 90% of it. How does this work out and how does the ego work into this?

Coming 30 minutes late is worth 90%, even just being there and checking it off to say that you did it. I go to my support group often I’ll get there 5 – 20 minutes late and that’s a big difference for me. Throughout most of my life I either had to get there early or close to it or I wouldn’t go at all for anything I was doing. For work, going in at all is so much better than not going in. Most of the time and in most situations you can cause a lot of trouble on that remaining percent.

On Udemy, I teach a lot of courses. Just showing up for those courses makes a huge difference whether it’s putting a new lecture in, looking in the discussions, or putting something on YouTube. Just putting a little time in every day adds up to a lot.

These little 10 minute videos I do don’t look like they’re much on a one-time basis. Putting a little time in on a regular basis every other day adds up. I’ve got several hours of these videos. I could break that into 5 or 10 audio books or 5 – 10 written books, but otherwise I’ve done a lot just by showing up today. That’s good enough.

The trick is to find the spot where it’s good enough. I’m lucky because I was a professional most of my life. What my grandpa said is if you can’t do it right, don’t do it at all. For some things, it makes sense. If you’re going to do a huge project and you can’t figure out how to do it or you don’t have the tools, it may be better to not do it at all.

I take time for the things that are important like relationships. With my wife, showing up every day for our relationship is the most important thing to do. Saying good morning to her or I love you every day or giving her a call if I’m not actually seeing her that day showing up in the relationship is the most important thing I can do. With the dog or the baby, showing up and giving them a bit of attention. Being there because life grows when you pay attention to things. Showing up to what I’m doing consistency and it gives balance. I try and show up for all the things I do today.

I try to show up in my relationships every day with my friends and family while accepting I can only do so much. I can’t show up every day for my wife, daughter, mom daughter, sisters cousins, and extended family. I can’t do that every single day. I can show up for my wife, mom, and daughter every single day. I can show up for exercise every day. I can show up for healthy eating every day. I can show up for my support group every day. I can show up for work every day. I work from home, which makes it easy, but I would often ignore work completely some days.

Showing up is powerful. The main factor of persistence is perfectionism and the expectation of getting something out of it immediately. I don’t need to do anything for work because I’m not getting anything out of it.

Why make a video like this? I’m not going to get anything out of it. I’m lucky to get some positive comments and feedback out of it. If you do share that I’m grateful and appreciative. I do this video because it feels like the right thing to do. I don’t do it to change the world or make all kinds of money, I do it because I think it’s the right thing to do. I don’t know what will come of it, I try to show up for doing the right thing as much as I can.

All day every day and I’ve got a lot better life on account of that now. I had a life filled with a lot of frustration and misery which is pretty ridiculous given all that’s been given to me. I’ve been put in a situation where my only problem was making myself miserable. It seems like a lot of humanity is struggling with the exact same thing. I hope this can be helpful for you.

I pray today to show up in my life in the most important areas today. In my relationship which is number one. Taking care of myself which comes before anything external. Then in my work and with my friends and recreational activities. I pray to show up, just a little bit. I pray, today, that I adept my limitations as far as showing up. I pray that I realize I can’t show up for everyone all the time. I can do a little bit here and there and be okay with it. I pray that you have the same opportunity today to show up where it matters that you show up, to be where you need to be. I pray that you understand that you can only do so much and whatever you can do is enough. Thank you  for reading this, I hope you have a great day.