It doesn’t matter if you make a mistake in life because you have the chance to try again. In fact, you could say you have infinite chances to try again. You can keep trying again every single day. No matter what you’ve done, there’s another chance to do it right. I messed up my last video about the nature of today. The game dropped which made it hard to concentrate and I lost my train of thought. It’s no big deal. I can just make another video.
The main mistake we make in life is to keep making the same mistake over again. Sometimes, we make a mistake is so unforgivable that we continue to make that same mistake again. It often means some of us don’t get past the same mistake for years. We keep making the same mistake again and again. We’re really punishing ourselves for the original mistake. Sometimes it takes seeing the original mistake that was made, forgiving it, and moving on.
If you find yourself in the same situation, it’s often because you’re not forgiving the original mistake. You’re saying that original mistake was so bad that you can’t be forgiven. You have to continue behaving and doing the same things again. If you keep doing the same things you’ll keep getting the same results. If you don’t forgive the original mistake, you often will keep making it again and again on a different day.
I know there’s been some mistakes in my life that I continue to make over and over again. They are things like being rude and inconsiderate to people. I did things like lying. I lied at four years old for spilling some perfumes and it’s one of the first times I can remember lying.
How many times did I keep making the same mistake again? I wouldn’t have continued making the same mistake if I had forgiven myself for it. Today, I’m able to not keep making the same mistake, because I’m able to give myself for the original mistake.
When I was a four-year-old kid, I was afraid of what was going to happen if I admitted what I had done. What’s wrong with that? There’s nothing wrong with that. I did my best and my parents did their best to raise me right. Everything is okay. There’s nothing else that needs to be punished. As long as I didn’t forgive that original lie though, I was condemned to continue telling lies. After a while it’s hard to continue telling the true from the false. When you’ve been lying in your adult life about one thing or another, it can be hard to distinguish what is the truth.
Today, it helps me to look at the original mistake. Where can I first remember making the mistake? Often that goes back to where I need to forgive and then often I can forgive everything. It’s amazing how I used to get upset when I would hear things in research how important childhood was. I thought that was crap and it doesn’t matter how I was as a little kid. I thought I was over that stuff. The truth was I wasn’t over that stuff. The truth was I was continuing to make the same mistakes I had already made in childhood. I was continuing to make them again for lack of forgiving myself and for lack of forgiving other people.
How often do you see a friend keep getting in the same bad relationship over and over again? It will just be with a different person. You’ll look at them and you’ll say how can you be so stupid, how can you keep doing the same thing over and over again? This is how they can keep doing it.
When you don’t forgive yourself for the original bad choice you made, you’ll keep doing it. The weird thing is there’s a certain comfort level with it because you know that level of pain and suffering. It’s almost more comfortable to keep making the same mistake than it is to try something new. For me, this concept got hammered into me a lot with my drinking. The first time I drank, I had 2.5 beers, it was a lot of fun and there were no consequences.
The second time I got drunk, there were a lot of consequences. I had a hangover, I got sick. I was miserable. I knew by the second time I drank that I should never do it again. I had all the information I needed about it. Yet, why did I keep doing it over and over again? Because I didn’t forgive that original mistake.
I didn’t forgive that I had too much that time. I thought I could have a little bit less, but that original mistake of drinking that first drink. Once I could say it was okay that I did that, then I don’t have to keep doing it and trying it again to try to prove I’m right. I don’t have to keep trying to unmake that first mistake. I could just go forward today and do my best using what I’ve learned.
Often what we’re trying to do when we’re making the same mistake is trying to go back and change the past. The second time where I got drunk, I was trying to do it right. I was trying to show that I could be responsible. I was trying to get the fun out of it and not have all the pain and suffering. I continued to make the same mistake. Forgiveness allowed me to stop making that same mistake over and over again.
I wanted to say it’s okay I don’t have to try to prove I’m right. I can say it’s better if I don’t drink at all. It’s the easy thing to do and the right thing to do. That’s what I do today and now I have a simple life because of that. It doesn’t have to be any more complicated than that. I make an amazing amount of mistakes in my life. Things will go back ten years ago that I didn’t think were a big deal end up cropping up again in a new form.
Often the new form is not easy to understand, but when I look at it, I’m still not forgiving myself for what I did ten years ago. I’m showing this today to make sure I remember that process that helped me. I still have a lot more things to do this with. I’ve done it with some things today that seemed impossible.
I’ve done it with drinking. I’ve tried so many things and different ways to drink responsibly. I tried to not drink at all live a better life. Finally I had to forgive that original mistake. You know you probably shouldn’t drink based on your family history and you did it anyway, it’s fine. You don’t have to do it again. You don’t have to prove you’re right to anyone. It’s over.
I’m grateful you spent this time with me. I have an amazing life today. I feel a responsibility to talk about what works for me today so you can have the same opportunity so if you want to. You don’t have to repeat and do the same bad things I did over and over. You don’t have to get so upset every time something goes wrong.
When I can forgive my mistakes, then life is pretty easy on a daily basis. Life is pretty peaceful and simple on a daily basis and I’m grateful for that. Today, I pray to continue to be willing to forgive my mistakes. I pray to be willing to look at when the original mistake was made so I could look beyond it. I could completely move on and forgive the original mistake. I pray that you have the same opportunities to look at the mistakes you’ve made and forgive yourself. Thank you for reading this. I hope you have a great day today.