What if you can’t get ahead in life? This is something that’s helpful for me to think about because it helps me take the right actions each day. It helps me do things for the right reasons. When I realize I can’t get ahead, it motivates me to honestly tell you about the things that are working for me. All I can do is my best.
What do I mean by this?
In life, I’ve found that every different situation has a new set of limitations. If you think you can get ahead, the real theory you’re looking under is that you can shed your limitations.
What we want to get to is a place where we have no limitations. Why else do people want to do things like be famous or make money or have a great job? The point, from what I see the real goal is to get ahead and try outgrow the limitations we have. My daughter is 7 months old, she has a lot of strict limitations in her life. She’s just learning to crawl now and she’s got out of her limited life.
She can’t feed herself, she can’t talk. She’s starting to make sounds, but she has a limited life. Yet she can’t ever get ahead, she can only have new limitations. I’m grateful I’ve discovered this first hand in my life over and over again. I thought that when I was a teenager, if I had a girlfriend it would be the best thing in the world. I thought that I’d have it made, I would be all set and my life would be perfect. You know what I discovered when I had a girlfriend? I saw that I couldn’t keep living the same way I was living before. The girlfriend expects me to live differently than I was living before.
I thought I needed a different girlfriend and I had the wrong one.
Then I ended up dating my wife and I saw that I had a girl I thought was perfect. It was obvious she was doing wonderfully and then the same thing happened. I thought that maybe I need a better business. I haven’t gotten far enough yet.
One of my greatest frustrations was having a girlfriend, but as soon as I got one I fixated on other frustrations. I’m lucky I kept getting the things over and over that I’ve wanted because I’m able to see through the trap.
The trap is the idea that I can get ahead. The trap is the idea that I can somehow have it better in the future than I already have it right now. That’s the real trap. I hear it in my friends often. I hear it most often in people who are the most sick. I hear it in the people who are struggling the most and having the hardest time. They have a relentless idea that they can get ahead. They believe they can be someone that would be better than what they are right now.
You could argue that I am better than I was before, but you could also argue there are some ways I’m not as good as I used to be. I am painfully boring now. When people ask me what’s new, I respond with nothing. My life is pretty much the same as it’s been any other time you’ve asked for the last six months. It’s great I have a peaceful life today and there are ups and down to every different way of living.
I’m grateful that I have access to more money than I have ever had in my life before. When you get more money, you think that will be enough. When you reach your financial goals, you want even more money. You keep thinking that more money will be enough, but what happens when you reach the next goal? What happens when you get a million in the bank? You think someone is going to take it from you and you have to guard your money. Then you get 2 million in the bank so you want to work even harder.
What about when you get three million? Then you become paranoid and obsessed that everyone is going to steal your money. You spend all kinds of time worrying about your money. You gain new limitations. You gain limitations you didn’t have before. You start to have limitations like you can’t do anything unless it’s fancy.
If you have millions of dollars you start to feel like you can’t stay in a hotel unless it’s fancy. I’m bad enough like that just living in the US. My wife stayed in hostels while she was traveling and that’s just something I don’t want to do. That sounds gross.
You can see just that. My limitations in my thinking just based on living in the US. I have lots of these limitations. I’m not open to trying new things because I think that’s below me or I might get a disease.
There are all these things where you think you can get ahead. When you see you can’t get ahead, there’s a lot of peace that comes with that. I don’t have to run or hurry anywhere. I can just chill right where I am and everything will be fine. I don’t have to get anything. I don’t have to be anyone. I am good right where I am.
This can also produce inaction which can be another limitation. I’m grateful I can make this video and I don’t have to be in a hurry. Some people think I talk slowly and that’s because I’m not in any hurry to get the words out. Plus I have a global audience too which I am grateful for. People in every country watch my videos and take my courses online. If English isn’t your first language, it’s helpful not to speak so quickly.
I used to talk fast because I had to get everything out. I was afraid I was going to lose your attention so I just talked as fast as I could. It was stressful and I was anxious all the time.
That’s why I get my words out slowly today. I’m not in any hurry today. I know they will come out at the right pace. I’m not trying to get ahead. I’m not trying to pull one over on you. I know that if I just talk, the words will come out at the right pace. Will some people be aggravated by the slow pace? Maybe. Some people like the slow pace. I realize today that I can’t please everyone. If you think you can get ahead you also are assuming you can please everyone. Then when anyone comes along and hates what you’re doing, it’s frustrating. Believe me I’ve been hated a lot. I’ve hated on other people a lot. I’ve been a part of the problem. I’ve also been a part of the solution.
That motivates me to try to be apart of the solution. That motivates me today to talk about why I know I can’t get ahead in my life. When I know I can’t get ahead in my life then it prompts me to just do the best I can right now. It encourages me to take things slow and then I don’t have to wait until I have a hundred thousand in the bank to be happy. I don’t have to wait until my next child is born, I can celebrate the child I already have.
It gives me the ability to enjoy life as it is without demanding that life be a certain way for me to enjoy it. When you demand that life look a certain way to enjoy it you don’t spend time enjoying it. I spent most of my life demanding that life look a certain way for me to enjoy it. I was working 5 days a week and demanded that it be Friday night before I could let it out.
I spent 5 days a week missing out on life that I could’ve lived just fine the rest of the day. It’s fine now since I see I can’t get ahead. I don’t need to wait for the weekend to have a good time. I can have a good time any day of the week. You might think that’s not a big deal or you might think you already have a good time every day of the week.
I don’t know what you think. When you see you can’t get ahead you also realize how limited your own knowledge is. It’s funny being a know-it-all. I saw a guy yesterday who knew nothing about what he was about to get into and he tried to act like he knew a little bit about it. When he got called out on it, he tried to move on from the subject.
Today, I realize I don’t know anything about anything. That gives me peace. I don’t have to guess what you’re thinking. I don’t have to guess what you want out of me. I realize that I don’t know what you want out of me. I don’t know why you’re here right now. I don’t know anything about what’s going on with you.
I know that you know what’s going on with me on a most fundamental level. If I can make something I would like watching. If I can make something that’s honest from the heart, it will probably be useful to you. At the same time, it will probably piss someone off. It seems that every video I make pisses someone off so that’s okay. I’m okay with that today because when you see you can’t get ahead, you see that there’s nowhere for anyone else to go either. No one else is getting ahead or behind by what they’re doing in life either. We are all creating our own universe that’s either a happy place to live in or it could be an awful place to live in.
When I see that I can’t get ahead today, I also see what kind of Universe I’m creating. I pray today to see that I can’t get ahead. I pray to see that whatever I do I’m only transitioning from one limitation to another. I pray today to see the peace that is given and guaranteed to me when I see that I can’t get ahead. I don’t have to be in a hurry. I don’t have to rush into doing anything. I can be completely peaceful right where I am without requiring anything else out of life.
I pray that you have the same chance today to see that you can’t get ahead. I pray that you are able to see that by not being able to get ahead, you can have everything that you’ve ever wanted. Thank you for watching this. I hope you have a great day.