Stop Talking Right Now! Just Listen Learn And Grow

Why is it children learn things so easily? As kids grow into teens they have difficulty learning things. Adults and people 30 and up, why does it seem like it’s more difficult to learn things? I’ve heard people say that it’s easier to learn a language when you’re a kid. How did we lose the ability to learn as a child? Theoretically, if I can learn fast as a baby, I ought to be able to do that now.

I’ve learned that my four-month-old daughter, is learning faster than I can even keep up with her. It seems like she can do that because she listens and she watches most all day. In other words, she’s not trying to put things out into the world. She sits there most of the day and watches and listens and learns.

What I’ve noticed is most of my adult life, I was primarily interested in what I had to say. I didn’t do a whole lot of listening and I thought I already knew how things worked. Since I already knew how things worked, why would I  care about what others had to say? Thinking you know is where learning stops. If you think you’re an expert on a subject, that’s often where you stop getting better at it.

For example, in the Zombie map on Black Opps 3, it gets more difficult to learn it the more I think I know. I think I know what happens when I sit in a certain spot. I think I know the best way to win on this level. I think I know all these things about it. Meanwhile, I start missing things that I don’t know. I start overlooking things like other ways I can level up on it. I start overlooking new spots I could sit in. I  start overlooking strategies other people are using that are better than the ones I’m using.

If you put this into the scale of your entire life. You think you know about relationships, you think you know about jobs. you think you know about how to find a house. The more things you think you know about life, the more life starts to get boring. If you already know everything, what is there to learn?

Relationships become frustrating when other people think they know everything  about the other person. There’s no reason to listen to the other person in the relationship. You already know what they have to say. You already know where they stand on all the issues. What’s the point in listening to them then? That’s where shouting comes in as two people struggle to have one person listen. I’ve found in the last year and a half of my life I’ve had extraordinary growth. A big part of that is learning how to listen. I realized how little I learned about almost anything.

On this level, even though I’ve played it a bunch of times, there’s a ton of things I don’t know about it. I don’t know where all the zombies are. I don’t know exactly where you can stand on each level to get them to spawn fast and kill them fast. I’m starting to realize the depth of this level that I had no idea about. That’s really exciting in a relationship especially. I looked at my wife the other night and realized she has so much to teach me still.

After 5 years of dating her and being married, it’s amazing to look at her and see how much depth there is to her. Out of all the things I could know about her, I know hardly anything about her. That makes the time ahead seem exciting. When you think you know about someone, it makes the time together seem kind of boring. They’re not going to surprise you or teach you anything new. If they’re not going to teach you anything new, why keep hanging out with them?

Most of my life, I went around getting new friends all the time because I kept getting bored with the friends I had. Once I put them into enough stereotypical categories, I figured I knew each person and that was it. I could feel free to go and make new friends.

I learned from my daughter about why I’ve been able to learn so much lately. The last year and a half I’ve been forced to see how little I know about life. I was so miserable I couldn’t stand  it anymore so I opened my mind by force. I asked and pleaded and begged to learn more about life so it wouldn’t be so miserable. Through that I started listening better.

You might not have to go through as much pain to open your mind up and listen more. You don’t have to go through much more bad things in your life before you see the value of listening.

We have two ears and one mouth. You’re supposed to listen twice as much in that line of thinking as you are talking. In fact, one of the main reasons I can do these videos like this because I don’t talk as much now in the rest of the day. I have something to say when I’m doing these videos because I haven’t been talking as much anymore. My wife can give you a different version of that because maybe I talk more than I think I do. What I notice is that I listen a lot more to what’s going on in my life. Everything in life has something to teach me. Even if a person I know tells the same story again and again, if I listen good enough, I can always hear something new.

If I listen well enough, I can learn something from every situation. There’s things I can learn everywhere. Even after playing the same map on the same game, I can learn new things. If you realize you don’t know how to listen and everyone else is wrong, then the way to do that is to ask for help.

I realize sometime that my mind is closed. I don’t want to let my opinion in and I just want to be stuck in whatever mind pattern I’m in. If someone does something I don’t like, I want to sit there and keep being the victim. I want to keep being upset and keep blaming other people, but the only way I get out of that is I ask for help. I ask to be released from the hell of self. I’m stuck in this one way of thinking and that I don’t want any other way out. I do want it enough to ask for help.

There’s no reason I can’t reach my full learning potential. I’m teaching 43 course online right now because I’m learning more then I ever thought I could. I’m doing way more than I ever imagined I could. I thought at one point all I was only capable of doing something I already knew. I’ve learned how to teach all kinds of subjects including YouTube, Facebook, and productivity. I’ve got an absurd amount of courses online because I’m practicing what I’m telling you now. I’m sharing with you exactly how I’ve done it. I started talking a little bit less and I started listening a lot more. I accepted the limitations of my knowledge.

I don’t know everything. In fact, I hardly know anything and I’m grateful for that today. I pray today to remember the value of listening with an open mind and an open heart. I pray to remember that when I listen with an open mind and an open heart anything is possible. I pray that in sharing this with you that you have the same chance to learn things faster than you’ve ever learned. I pray that you’ll be motivated to reach your full potential. Thank you for reading this. I hope you have a great day today.