How do I appreciate the moment and figure out what the right thing to do today is so I make the right decisions for my life today? Here’s how I do it and this is drastically different than how I did it most of my life. This can help you make sure that you appreciate every moment you have in your life, that you make the right decision today or tomorrow on whatever big thing you have going on in your life. Here’s how I do it.
I’ll give you an example exactly from yesterday that illustrates this. My wife asked me if I want to go to the baseball game with her and her family. Baseball has often been something I associated with boring, dull, the game takes forever, I’m not much of a baseball fan, I’ve often not went to baseball games with my wife and my family because I figured I could do something more fun like play video games at home or basically anything else. Here’s how I made the decision on that.
What I’ve started doing is trying to look at my life in the hole before after. I use the future and the past to my advantage to make a decision right now that most honors my whole life. What I used to do is make selfish decisions. I would say I don’t want to go to a baseball game that’s going to be boring, go ahead and go without me and all I would do is consider what I wanted to do. When I did consider someone else, but I would do it with a little resentment. Those are the two ways I did things most of my life and it gets confusing because the mind puts out all these rational ideas like maybe your friends are free tonight, maybe you should play with them.
Here’s how I made the decision whether or not to go to the game last night with my wife. Here’s how I try and make all of my decisions today. I look at how I was born from when I was a kid to a teenager, to just before now and then go forward to when I’m older like when my wife and I have kids to older than that with grandkids, we’re old and we can’t do anything, to on pass that and then we die.
With that whole context in mind like as a baby, what I’ve wanted to do as a kid, would I have wanted to hang out with my wife who I love and is my best friend? When I was a teenager and was just desperate to get with any girl at all and afraid and never find the right girl, would I want to go hang out with my wife at a baseball game? In the future where we’ve got kids and it’s more challenging to go do something, would I want to go where it’s just her and I could go with her family? When we were grandparents maybe a leg or a hip doesn’t work very good and we can barely get there and wouldn’t want to climb all those stairs? Would I have wanted to go now where I’m healthy and it’s easy and no problem to go drive and walk up the stairs and walk all over the stadium, it doesn’t matter, it’s fine and my health is great? At the point where we die, where we done everything we could possibly do, where there’s no more we could do with these bodies, what would I have wanted to do? Would I want to go to the baseball game with my wife or would I have wanted to sit at home and play video games? When I look at all those contexts, all of those different pasts and future, what would I want to do today? The answer is so obvious, it’s so easy, of course I would want to go with my wife and her family to the baseball game.
Especially the dead version makes it easy to imagine. If one of us or both of us had died already, what would I have wanted to do now, and mainly to do differently? Well, I’d want to go to the baseball game with my wife and her family, that’s easy. I’d much rather do that than sit at home and play video games or do more work. That’s what I did.
It was really fun and happy and I’m very happy I went and that was the first baseball game I completely enjoyed with my wife and her family and it was the context I could see it in. So often in my life I’ve used the past or the future to make myself miserable to think about something I did in the past that’s so bad that I can’t be happy right now or look in the future something I’m so afraid of that I can’t possibly be happy right now. I’m so worried about this that I can’t possibly be happy right now.
Let’s use the past and the future to my advantage. I try and use the past and the future to my advantage today. Let’s look at from the past and the future what I would want to do in the moment because I can’t go do anything in the past or the future, but I can damn sure do something right this moment so now, I pray that I will always use the past and the future to help me make the best decision and to know what the right thing to do is in the moment.
I pray that by sharing how I use the past and the future to make a decision that helps me feel good, that helps me feel like I’m living and honoring the moment. I pray that by sharing this that you can have the same power for making the right decision in life. I pray that I will always think to look to the past and the future for inspiration to do the right thing now instead of a reason to suffer right now. Thank you for watching and listening to this. I’m honored you spent this time with me, I’d love to know what you think of this so that I can create what’s most useful. I can share the best of what’s most helpful for me to do that you can use yourself in your own life. Thank you and I hope you have a wonderful day.