Knowing yourself is the biggest thing you can do to have a good start freelancing, or if you already got started, to continue better from where you are at. The more you know yourself, the less you have to work blindly in the dark, and the less frustrations and the less walls you have to hit.
The more you know about yourself, the more you can match what you’re doing and why you like to do it, with what people need. The key is what you’re doing for other people. How are you out there helping someone else?
When you start thinking how you can help someone else, you will be amazed at how fast good things come back, and in order to do that you’ve got to know what you have to offer. You’ve got to know who you are and you’ve got to know what you’ve done before you start freelancing.
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This blog post is about getting to know yourself with a few simple questions. They seem simple at first, but the answers end up being deep when you go do them.
The first question is by far the biggest one.
Why are you working? What are you working for? Who are you ultimately working for?
This was very popular when I posted that question on the Warrior forum. If you want to start freelancing you have to figure out exactly the deepest reason why you are working.
I’m here writing this section out of the love and joy of being alive. That’s why I’m here because I am grateful to be alive and I love being alive. I love life and that’s why I’m here. I’m in a place now, this moment, that’s beautiful, amazing and eternal.
I love life and for me a higher power is helpful for my understanding. I choose to call my higher power God out of convenience, and out of being raised with using that term.
You don’t have to use God if you don’t want to. It doesn’t matter what you use because it’s just a word. The word God is just a word the same as any other word. I find it useful to embrace that connection to a higher power and why I am working. Especially, in the sense that it helps me feel connected to all of humanity. It helps me feel the sameness that I have with all of humanity.
So the reason why I’m working is out of the love I have. Now, depending on where you are at, you might find your answer to why you are working.
You might find things like:
I want a new car, a new house and a better job.
I’m tired of my boss.
I want to provide for my family.
I want my kids to have an inheritance.
I’m sick of working.
I want to try something new.
Those reasons are all fine. I did start freelancing online because I didn’t want to be a professor anymore. I started out on a resentment because I lost a $300 bet playing Call of Dutyand I thought it was stupid how little money I had.
Then I thought that if I had a business online, I could probably make some real money, and then I wouldn’t have to get all upset over losing a few hundreds.
That was a big part of why I started and everything I did corresponded to “Why I was working?”
The Why you are using with your work is the number one determining factor I can see of what outcome you’ll get out of it. If you’re working for a new car, you’ll be lucky to get a new car and that will likely be a big part of what you get.
In other words, you’re not likely to get a whole lot more than what you are working for. When you are working for all of humanity, you are working out of the joy of living. When you are working to be a good person right now and be of service, you’ll likely can unlock your full potential for what you can really do.
This is so far beyond whatever I imagined. I’m in outer space right now compared to where I started, and yet, it’s not that I am doing a lot different things.
It’s because of the Why: I’m working because I love being alive, I’m grateful to be alive, and I’m here to serve you. I’m here to be useful to you. That’s why I’m doing this and I’m doing it because it feels the right thing to do.
Your motivation to get a new house, make some new money, have a new X-BOX, or to impress a future girlfriend or wife, husband, can get you looking deeper and deeper in them.
Why do I want to start freelancing?
Why do I want a new girlfriend?
Why do I want to make money online?
I can get a hot girl, a hot car or a hot wife to feel good about myself.
Why do I want to feel good about myself?
I wanna feel like I belong to the human race.
Why do you want to feel like you belong to the human race?
I wanna be connected to everyone else.
Then you’re right back to the higher power. You are already connected to everyone else. Thinking about why you’re here trying to do what you’re doing today will unlock your full potential, which is to be useful for other people and do things that other people need you to do.
I feel kinda like a drone lots of times today.
“Hi! What do you need me to do?”
I live now the best life I have ever remembered. I get up, I pray and I ask to be of service. I pray to take care of myself and be useful, and here I am. It’s amazing!
When you think about the Why, you can unlock your full potential. I want you to unlock your full potential so you can be useful for me and do things that are good for all of humanity. If we all do our best with that, which ultimately we are doing, then we can have the best life together.
What would you do if money was not a consideration at all? What is it you would do if you didn’t need to think it all about the money you’d make out of it?
I find that this question is really important to start freelancing online and for doing your work because when you take the money out of it, only the thing itself is left to do.
I did a lot of things early on in my business that were purely money motivated. I didn’t have a big desire to do Facebook ads for other people and I just wanted the money. Now, for the first time in my life, I am truly doing things that are not money motivated.
When you find the joy in what you like to do, you will find the ways to get the money to do it. If you try and do things for money, you’ll often find you’re doing things you don’t like in order to get money. So imagine that you already have all the money you need to.
You can also do this as a scenario in the future and say, “I already have all the money I need and I already made it!”
“What am I doing? What am I doing in that scenario?”
Today, I am grateful that I am doing exactly what I want to as if money is not an issue. I love making my videos and I am even integrating ways to play video games that I enjoy. When you do what you do because you enjoy it, it’s actually way easier to make money.
Now, it might take a little bit of time to get set up and it might take a lot of borrowed money to get in the position to start freelancing online and make money. If you like doing it, you’ll do those things though.
Imagine you just won the lottery, what would you actually do with it?
In this question, you might need to move beyond fantasy and look at a day. Otherwise, you might start off: “Oh, I just won the lottery, I’d go to Vegas, I’d go to Hawaii, I’d buy a mansion or a building.”
Once you get passed those fantasies, you are in your mansion in Malibu, now what are you doing?
“Why? I’ll sit around all day and smoke pot or something.”
Well, if that’s the foundation of what you do, you can find it through this question and you can look deeper.
How long would you do that for?
“Well, I might get tired of that after a year or two and I might start playing video games. Or I might start just talking to people.”
The farther you can dive into what you would actually do if money wasn’t an issue, the better. Then, you can start syncing that with what you are actually doing.
“If I had a billion dollars in the bank, I would be doing this. This is what I would do. I would keep making these courses. I would keep doing all the things I’m doing if I had a billion dollars and if I had no money at all, I would hope I could keep doing all the things I’m doing now also.”
When you delete money from what you are trying to do, then you can start isolating what it is you really want to do. Money is a huge and powerful motivator that often poisons what you can see that you like to do.
I’ve done a lot of things in life. I thought I wanted to do them, but I was just trying to get some money. Jobs, careers, education, it has taken me a lot of self knowledge to put myself in a position where I’m doing what I do as if I had a billion dollars.
This is what I would do:
Make some videos, spend time with my wife and family and play some video games. Have some friends. That’s what I’d do.
It doesn’t matter where you do it, if you isolate what you would do, then you can better match what you do if money didn’t matter with what you are doing when money does matter.
This can help you to isolate schemes and hustling from your true purpose.
I would be willing and grateful to do what I’m doing now for the next 20 years. I would be honored to do the same thing that I’m doing today and it will be in slightly different forms. My daughter is likely to be older, I’m likely to be older and you are likely to be older. I’m willing to make these videos for my online courses and run my life as it is today for the next 20 years.
This is the first time in my life that I’ve ever been in that position and it’s taken a lot of mistakes like doing a lot of things I did not want to do for 20 years. I was in law enforcement and I did not want to do that for 20 years. I went to graduate school looking at academia and I did not want to do that for 20 years.
Do I wanna do this forever? That’s when I exited.
I had a 9-5 internship after college and I knew that I can’t stand having an office job 9-5. I’ve never had one since then and I wanted to start freelancing.
My wife somehow has had one for four years and it’s hard. I wouldn’t want to do that for 20 years.
I’m very happy doing what I’m doing now.
So if you ask yourself this question, it could help you make space in your life. If you already have a job that you’re working at and try to add this on, or maybe transitioning, then you might need to get rid of your existing commitments first to make room for it and start freelancing.
If you have a full time job or a part time job that takes a lot of energy that you are not willing to do for 20 years, you might need the space in your life to really do what you want to do a hundred percent.
I know a guy who is trying to learn these things while he has a job because he can sit there all day in his office. He’s a car salesman and he can be on the computer all day until a customer walks in. He did start freelancing this way.
If you find the space in your life and you honestly ask yourself:
Do I wanna sell cars for 20 more years?
Do I wanna try and be hustling online and slinging out all this random social media messages for 20 years?
No, I don’t!
And I did that!
Do I want to be serving clients for 20 years?
No, I don’t.
And that’s why I don’t serve clients on my business anymore. If you don’t wanna do it for years, why would you want to do it at all. If the only answer is money, I guarantee that you can find something you will do for 20 years. Start freelancing with something that you’d like to do for years and that you’d love to do for 20 years.
You will find a way to make money at it if you make space to do it. It might not be easy at first, I borrowed 50 thousand plus dollars myself so that I could do what I wanted to do, what I liked to do and what I was willing to do for 20 years.
I borrowed the money for it so that I’ll have time and space to just do it. Now it pays for itself, and I’m paying back the loans faster than I ever imagined. If you can look at and eliminate things that you wouldn’t be willing to do in 20 years, you can open up a lot of space in your life.
You can fill that space with things that you would like to do indefinitely. When you’re doing things that you would like to do indefinitely, it’s absolutely amazing how easy it is to have great joy in the work you’re doing.
I’m thankful for that I’m practicing that right here with you and I’d be honored to do this indefinitely. For ten years, you’d still be taking courses with me, read my books, watch myYouTube videos so we can continue growing together.
I hope I’ve given you inspiration to start looking around and figuring out what pieces of your life that you don’t want to do forever you could delete, and which ones you would like to do more of.
I hope I’ve given you courage to start freelancing with the things you are good at and that you like to do.
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