One of the easiest things I do to take responsibility for my emotions is to stop blaming them on other people. when you blame your emotions on other people you are completely hopeless to do anything about them. If you really don’t want to do anything about them, that’s an ideal position to be in. That’s why so many people blame every emotion they have on everyone or something else.
It’s always someone else’s fault, some agency’s fault, some company’s fault, or life’s fault and not my fault. When you do that you’re absolutely helpless to do anything better with your emotions. If you want to do something better with your emotions start taking responsibility for them and say okay. This emotion is my responsibility. I’m the one who’s feeling anger right now. However it came about almost doesn’t matter. There are lots of things that go about in the collective human consciousness that you and I get infected with.
When an shooting happens and everyone goes crazy about it. That kind of thing you get from the collective human consciousness. It’s your responsibility to deal with how you feel about it. Once you see that your feelings are your responsibility and not someone else’s, you can begin dealing with your emotions properly.
If you’re anxious about the future, it’s your responsibility. It helps me a lot because I know I have to do something about my feelings. Usually when I’m in a negative feeling, I pray. I realize that all on my own I can’t handle lots of things. I ask other people for help and I reflect on what I have done to my body and my mental health. Then I can learn not to do it again. I love the meditation and practice book for monks that Thich Nhat Hanh wrote. It talks about how a monk is to live. It was something he wrote to give to the monks at his monastery.
A monk knows anger because a monk knows how anger arises and a monk knows how anger dissipates. In knowing how anger starts and stops in you, you can know anger as long as you know anger, then you have the ability to not be angry. If you know how anger starts and how it stops, then you can do something about it. If you don’t even know how you get angry and how you stop being angry, you’re in trouble.
Desire is a tough one for me. Desiring more money, lust, and the endlessness to add things to myself. A monk knows desire because a monk knows how desire arises and dissipates. In knowing how desire starts and how desire stops, you know desire. You know what it feels like. In knowing what it feels like you know when you’re in it. Since you know how it starts and how it stops, it’s not hopeless. You don’t have to act on it.
I’m amused sometimes by my programming as a man. It’s amusing to watch. Desire starts and desire stops. It’s funny and it’s not so serious anymore. It’s not like I’m a shameful person because desire started and it will also go away. To know myself and to know desire, then I can know freedom from desire also. I can know desire. I’m not in anger. I don’t feel that right now. To know I’m free of it I can appreciate all the moments I’m free of desire.
when you know your emotions and you take responsibility for those emotions, then you start getting the chance to be free from the grip of those emotions. I know anxiety because I know how anxiety starts. I know how anxiety feels like when it’s active. I know when anxiety stops. I know how anxiety dissipates. I know when anxiety starts by worrying about something and being afraid of something in the future. I know anxiety is often partnered with shallow breathing and not getting enough air and the physical manifestation in the body. I know that anxiety feels uncomfortable. I know that anxiety feels like I need to get to somewhere else. It feels like being in a hurry, stressed, and suffocating. I know anxiety leaves when I go into trust. When there’s trust, there’s no room for anxiety. When I trust the future will work out how it’s supposed to, I have the freedom to sit here in this moment and not worry, then anxiety leaves.
When I take deep breaths, I get enough oxygen and the feeling of suffocation goes away. Anxiety leaves. You can see the power really quickly from these emotions. When you know emotions, you know the creation of the emotion. You know the existence of the emotion active and you know the dissipation and the passing of the emotion. You know and can embrace so many other emotions. I know love and I know joy. I know how joy arises. I know joy arises simply by allowing it to be there. It stays and it feels peaceful and feels serene and I feel joy now. I feel joy to be alive I’m breathing. I know how joy dissipates in the face of fear, anger, frustrations.
In knowing joy is produced from knowing and loving and embracing life. Knowing that joy dissipated by not accepting life, then I know joy. I know how to produce it and I know how to lose it. In knowing how to lose it and produce it I have access to joy anytime.
Thank you for going through these emotions with me. I’m honored to have the chance to share what so many people have shared and given freely to me. Thank you.
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