Men are going all in on dating right now. I know this will come as a surprise if you've watched a lot of videos talking about how men are giving up on dating, how men are withdrawing from dating. That's not my experience. As a man, I've never been this all in on dating in my life before. I'm going to share what I'm learning with you.
And first, if you're struggling with dating, I want to acknowledge the pain, the humiliation ritual that dating feels like. The wondering if there's any point to doing this. The feeling that it's just not worth it. I've experienced all that quite a bit. I was with my ex for 15 years. We have two beautiful children. We got divorced last year. And I've spent over $10,000 on matchmaking, on dating apps, which I've just recently deleted again, on a dating coach locally, in person, a woman, that takes me out to real events and shows me how to approach women in real time, that audited my dating profile, that took pictures for me, that has given me advice based on my specific situation, that had me sit down with a circle of women at her house to talk about dating. I have never tried this hard on dating in my whole life.
And while I want to acknowledge the pain, I just got a massage and I'm like, I just had a good cry. And a lot of it was the pain of dating. The pain of over and over and over again. Humiliation ritual. Ghosting. Being totally uninterested in women and then they are very interested in me. Expressing my interest in a number of women and they instantly disappear, leaving me thinking, should I quit and just go to total apathy? Is that what we're doing these days?
The pain is real, but it's building me
I understand that it has been miserable lots of times dating, but here's the silver lining, and in fact, the thing that makes it all worth it. Lots of times doing things that might not be that enjoyable in the moment, that are difficult, like lifting weights, running, playing a two-and-a-half-hour game of tennis one on one in the middle of the heat in Florida where you just feel like every ounce of energy has been drained out of you by the end of it. You're just giving everything you have to try and beat this guy. A lot of times it's challenges and hardship, especially for us men, but probably for women also. It's challenges and hardship that build us into stronger men. Like JFK said, don't pray for easier lives, pray to be a stronger man.
And I think as a man, dating, yes, it is hard. It is a humiliation ritual. As soon as I get interested in someone, like 95% of the time, it's not there. And then it's just annoying when women are interested in me. And I'm like, all right, why couldn't you have been this other woman? Why is it you that's interested in me instead of that one?
I'm currently very single right now. I did just have a third or a fourth date, whatever you want to call it. I had a woman come to my house yesterday. I've been trying so hard at dating. The woman that came to my house yesterday was 23. I guess she still is. And I dated women as old as 57. So there's been a 34-year age range. I just turned 42. There's been a 34-year age range in the women I've dated in the last year. I've dated women from having high-powered jobs, making six-plus figures, to women with absolutely no money, where everything's falling apart. Beautiful women that I find about as attractive as you could get. And, well, the other side of that too.
I've never tried this hard at dating, and the emotional pain of it has been grueling. But I don't think I've ever built this much character before. Because to me, it's failures that you really learn from. And when I look in the mirror after, you know, like yesterday, I had this, I'll call her a girl, because she's early 20s. That's arguably a girl.
The girl who came over yesterday
She comes over. I was all excited. I'd been out on a second date and a third date with her in the previous couple days. I met her a few weeks ago in person. No dating apps. And immediately liked her, got her phone number, took her to the beach that week after talking with her like every day. And after I took her to the beach on the first date, I'm like, this girl is not right for me. This girl, her life.
I'm sober. I don't do any alcohol, any drugs, no plant medicine, no supplements. I eat whole plant based. I'm as healthy as I've ever been. My body feels fantastic, almost all day, almost every day. I sleep good at night. I have two kids I'm parenting. I got my own 1,400-square-foot house in one of the best neighborhoods in St. Pete. And I'm pretty well known on YouTube, so I've got some status. Here's the thing though. I have a low tolerance for women that don't have their life together. I don't want to be with a girl that's all kinds of drama and can't get through the day without doing some substance to change how she feels and just gets really toxic and negative energy.
So I went out, went to the beach with this girl. I don't think either of us had a very good time. I invited her to another event anyway, which I'll get to in a minute. And then she didn't respond. I didn't hear from her for weeks. Then she blows my phone up Saturday inviting me to do three different things with her. So I go do the things with her. At first, I certainly felt really good. Being a 42-year-old guy walking around with this 23-year-old girl, walking into St. Pete calisthenics like, what's up everybody? Yeah, yeah, I'm in here with her. I felt pretty good about that. And I enjoyed some of the conversations with her.
But I had her over to my house yesterday and I knew, I'm like, this is not it. I'm dating for marriage and family. I'm not dating just casually or to try and increase my numbers. In fact, what I've come to believe from what I've read is that the higher numbers you have, the less satisfied you tend to be in a relationship. So if you want to really be happy, the general way to do that is to have less people you've been with. And at this point, I don't want to add any more. I'd prefer to minimize adding more. That's my logical brain.
But at the same time, there's other brains in my body, from the gut, the heart, and on down. They have different ideas about what they think we should do. And this girl comes over and my root chakra, or whatever you want to call it, was getting a one-way train of thought. And it was disregarding all the red flags. And thankfully, my logical brain disrupted my usual smoothness and some of my usual playfulness. And we just barely were able to not do anything more than hold hands. And thankfully, we didn't. And she left yesterday. And I feel both like I failed and like I dodged a bullet.
I feel like I failed because my mind's saying, come on, man, that should have been, you should have made a sale there. You should have got a conversion. Come on. It's been since November 1st since I've gotten laid. I guess technically it'd be November 2nd in the morning. Which is the longest I've been since I was 19. Because back when I was 19 and early 20s, before I met my ex-wife, I had one goal and that was to get laid. It wasn't to have a relationship. It was to get laid.
So after this girl leaves yesterday, my mind is, I'm so confused. I'm disoriented. I'm sad. I feel like I'm coming down off of being high. Because she provided some stimulation. As a guy that's sober and doesn't take in any external substances that stimulate me, and that has a life of pretty regimented behavior, having her come over was very stimulating. And I left and I felt down, confused, sad, and relieved. Like, thank God I didn't do anything with her.
And then I call my friend up that's in his 70s, and he says, yeah, that was dangerous for your sobriety. You're over here with a girl that's got a marijuana vape that's offering you her vape, and you didn't, you thought about it for a half second before saying no? That's dangerous. And you're hanging out with a girl that's getting high while she's doing it? That's dangerous. I violated my own boundaries. I mean, I didn't realize she was bringing a marijuana pen into my house, but I also didn't kick her out right away when I noticed it. So yeah.
And then I'm just totally in dysphoria. I'm thinking, this is sad that I don't have any options right now. I wouldn't be entertaining this girl if I had any options. But why don't I have any options? Because I don't want options. I want one woman to share life with, to build a deep spiritual partnership with, to have kids with, to get married in the context of raising kids. That's what I want. I don't need options. I need one woman. I don't need five or ten different women that might be one woman. I need one woman.
So yesterday, I acutely experienced the pain of dating, and it encouraged me to reach out to somebody else. And then I laid on the massage table and I sobbed. My mind was so far out there. I was listening to T.I., whatever you like. I was thinking, I'd offer to take this girl on a vacation and pay for everything on credit. But I didn't offer to take her anywhere. Because when I was spending time with her, I'm like, I don't need to be spending more time. Now, she cooked some food at my house, which was tasty. And I really appreciated having a woman cook at my house. And I definitely want some more of that.
But it was really helpful yesterday to get to know myself better. To say, hey, what are you doing right now? Which brain are you thinking with right now? Why were you so desperate that you just let this girl take over your weekend instead of doing your work? I totally ditched doing most of my work over the last three days to hang out with this girl. I could have done a couple more live streams on Saturday and Sunday. I could have done two or three more yesterday. I ditched my work to hang out with this girl. So then I feel humiliated. I had fun. We walked around the park and held hands and played. She got my boxing gloves out and I got my mitts out. I had fun. But I don't need to be having a woman over that I know is not the one.
So do I feel humiliated? Do I feel embarrassed at my own behavior? Do I feel like I failed to just get the result that a lot of dating coaches, all they seem to care about, is getting in the bedroom?
What I think is wrong with most dating advice
Am I frustrated with looking at YouTube and seeing that almost all the dating coaches are teaching is sleeping with as many women as possible? At least that's what the men seem to be teaching. I don't like that. I don't think that's the way to date. I think that's why we're in this mess where dating is such a mess right now. Where you can't tell if you're going to run into a woman who's saving herself for marriage, or is going to instantly try and bang you in the car on the first time meeting. It's so wild. There's so much confusion, so much frustration.
I did a video about this. There was this single mom I found very attractive. You see these guys out there putting videos out saying, oh, don't date single moms. I would love to date a single mom. I would love to date a single mom who has maybe one or two kids and wants to have a couple more with me. I would love that. So what happens when I try and do that?
Well, this single mom reaches out to me. After I asked her to do something, she didn't respond. I gave up. Six months later, she messages me asking me immediately to go to coffee. I deleted her number. I didn't even know who it was at first. But she referenced a specific yoga studio we used to go to. So I said, sure, I'll meet you for coffee. We meet for coffee. We're holding hands. We're having a great date. I made the mistake that I would say now of telling her that I was interested. But I mean, you see how honest and straightforward I am. Dating has been brutal where it feels like I need to be dishonest in order to date. But at the same time, dishonesty is a horrible foundation to build a relationship on.
So I tell this single mom that reached out to me, that seems very interested based on her body language and the things she's saying, I tell her I'd love to see her again. I'd be happy to date her. The next day, she sends me a very warm text message, including a picture of herself and her daughter. I send back a warm text message. I send a couple of pictures of my kids. After that, she mostly ignores me, then agrees to a date with me, then cancels at last minute and asks to reschedule for a few hours later, then ghosts me and doesn't respond at all.
And yeah, that hurt for days. I'm like, seriously? I was just minding my own business here. She inserts herself into my life, leads me on, and then ghosts me. That was days of waiting by the phone, being distracted from my work, wondering when, when your girl's going to text me back. Then getting excited when she's like, yeah, let's go out again. Let's go to yoga and get a coffee together. Sounds like a nice date. We're spending hours together. Then she cancels. I'm like, cool, I can reschedule this afternoon. No problem. Ghosted. My dating coach even had me send a video. Yeah, that hurt. That was an entire week of excitement and feeling hurt.
Now, some other YouTube people would say that, well, I should just not care. I should just be indifferent. I should just don't worry about it. But I did care. I liked this woman. I don't need more. Now I'm walking around forgiving her. I forgive her for doing that to me. And then I have faith. I'm like, maybe there'll be a woman who doesn't operate like that. And I'm proud of myself. It's like, look how much pain I've endured dating after divorce in the last year. If you've ever felt that ache, I wrote more about it in I'd Rather Feel the Pain Than Nothing, because I really would rather feel all of this than go numb to it.
The last time I got laid, and what it cost me
I've been on the other side of the equation too. The last time I got laid, I woke up after being separated for a month. I'm living in my own house. I tried dating. Nothing was happening. I said, you know what? It's time to get laid. I'm going to get laid today. It was Saturday, November 1st. I went through my phone. I texted 11 women first thing in the morning. Whatever I thought would be most relevant. Many of them I hadn't talked to in a little while. I texted 11 women in my phone. I got responses. About half of them didn't even reply. And these were not direct, to-the-point texts. These were just kind of seeing if I'd get a response. I got about two or three enthusiastic replies. And I got one to come over to my house that afternoon. So I know how to do that.
And then I just couldn't stand her personality. I found her like just barely attractive enough, but not attractive enough that I'd want to be out in public with her. And then she wanted to walk around the neighborhood that, at the time, I was still in the same neighborhood with my ex and my mother and her family and friends. I'm like, man, I hope nobody sees me right now. And then I put in so much work. I figured I might as well get something for me, right? And she was so into me, because probably nobody had actually listened to her for quite a while, because it was hard to really listen to her. So much complaining and victim story and the world's so screwed up. And I recognize that, okay? But that's disempowering, to think like that and to go around like that.
And after nine hours of listening to her, we finally got into bed and did the thing. And then I was ready to go to sleep. And she was so excited. She couldn't hardly sleep all night. And I was tired. Because I was up way past my bedtime, which usually is 11 p.m. We're up till 3 a.m. I'm like, I need to go to bed. I'm getting up at seven tomorrow. She couldn't hardly sleep because she tossed and turned all night, because I guess I wasn't as interested. She was ready to go all night constantly. I was not, because as soon as I got where I was going, I wasn't that interested in her anymore. I had some more energy in the morning and then promptly got rid of her.
But she stunk like marijuana. Again, I'm sober and I can't stand being around the smell of marijuana. She stunk like marijuana, which I put up with until the first lay. I couldn't wait to get her out of my house. Then your girl, she's a year younger than me, so not exactly a girl, she's blowing up my phone constantly, texting me about every little thing. And every time, my first thought is, I don't care. I don't want to see her. I don't want to see you again. I don't like you. I don't feel good after you leaving. This was not, I shouldn't have done this. I should not have done this. And I tell her that. And then she's mad. She's mad. Like I led her on. I didn't promise anything.
I hear some of these guys, and this is what I'm saying, it's not just hard for men, not just hard for women. It's hard for people. Gay, straight. It's hard dating these days. She's talking about how I led her on and stuff. I'm like, I mostly just listened to you. I didn't promise anything else. Probably 90% of the nine hours I spent with her was listening to her talk. Which was agony. But I endured it. Just because I wanted some strange after 15 years. And I've not had any since then, because the overall experience, I can relate it to drinking. Just having that kind of connection with someone you don't even like that much is horrible. It left me spiraling for a month emotionally. It took me about a month to get on center again.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't
So on both ends of it. Where women are just treating me like crap, ghosting me, leading me on, promising that they're going to go do something, then just canceling or not even showing up. Women that there seemed to be a romantic spark with on the date, and then a couple of days later, they forgot that. They didn't think there was a romantic spark. Women seeming to be disappointed that I didn't constantly text or call them, and then deciding they don't want to go out with me again. Then alternatively, women where I am trying to, okay, I like you, let's talk every day. They're turned off by that too. At least a few have been turned off by that. At least one seemed to be very turned off by me not talking to her every day between dates.
Like one. Beautiful woman. Rich woman. Seemed to really like me. Was probably the most romantic spark I've had on any of my maybe 20 first dates this last year. I didn't talk to her for two days. Now, this is a woman about 10 years younger than me. So we set the date. I met up with her Thursday. I got her phone number from the matchmaking service Friday. Worked on setting the date Saturday. Set up the second date via text message Sunday. Tuesday, I get a text from her suddenly that she doesn't feel like there's romantic chemistry and she needs to cancel the second date. But I can assure you, she definitely felt some romantic chemistry before that. What happened? I asked my friends. They're like, dude, this is a woman in her early 30s. You didn't text her. You didn't call her for 48 hours. I'm like, yeah, we had a date set. Why do I need to text her or call her? They're like, dude, women expect you to show up. So I start showing up. And then every woman after that I've tried to show up for seemed to be turned off by it. I'm like, what?
So I just want you to know, if you think dating is agonizing, confusing, ridiculous, not worth it, I would agree with you on everything except not worth it. Because I did have a fantastic relationship for 15 years, which most dating coaches have not had. And to me, if you're going to be a dating coach, you should have some history of a very long, successful relationship. Not just hookups, but a successful history of making a deep foundational spiritual partnership with someone, which most of these people I see doing dating videos on YouTube have no proof of. I do. I had a great marriage, married 13 years, dating a total of 15. Still cooperatively parenting the kids today. Had a smooth, kind divorce. It is worth the trouble.
How dating made the rest of my life feel easy
Here's the thing. Even if I don't ever find a happy relationship, the character building I've done has made me much more solid across the rest of my life. As agonizing as dating has been, it's made my business feel easy by comparison. I mean, you've got haters that come on my YouTube channels and leave every critical comment you could possibly imagine, and then some that are very creative. I remember when I was with my ex, I'd get all butthurt about my comments. And now, after experiencing dating for the last year, everything that happens in my business just barely feels like it moves any emotion at all.
Compared to: I meet somebody, I really like them. She lives a healthy lifestyle. I live a healthy lifestyle. She's not into drinking. I'm sober. She wants kids. I want kids. She seems to have her life together. We seem to have some chemistry, and then all of a sudden, something or another, for a reason I can't even isolate, she suddenly is not interested. She suddenly doesn't text back. She suddenly cancels a date. Doesn't do what she said she was going to do.
And it's so many different circumstances. I matched with a woman on Hinge that I knew from real life, and I talked to her. It sounded like, once I told her that I definitely wanted more kids, and she definitely didn't, she wasn't interested after that, but she tried to make it like she was still open, and maybe that could work. And then she plans a date with me. She cancels it last minute, or she reschedules it last minute, then cancels it, then says she wants another date. Then after two days of working on scheduling another date, she tells me she's busy. Her whole week filled up. So I text back. I say, okay, it sounds like you're not interested, which is fine. She denies that. She's like, oh, sorry. I was just sending a quick message on my watch. So then I ask her, well, could you point me to some other things to do? My dating coach sent this very crafty little message to basically say I'm moving on. She sends a super enthusiastic text message after that saying, well, we could go swimming together. I respond back, that's great. I love going swimming at that beach. When are you free? She doesn't respond for a whole week.
And this is a woman, too, that I'd say is an average, average woman close to my age. We're not talking like some baddie that you hear about. It's just like, what happened? Did some other guy match with her on a dating app and she hooked up with him already? She started thinking about having kids with me and decided she wasn't going to do that? I don't know. But what I can tell you is dating has been absolutely brutal for the last year. I'm shocked. When I was married, I had girls that were like crushing on me, and I wouldn't do this again, but I had a lot of attractive female friends when I was married. And I imagined it'd be so easy to just convert one of them into another wife. Boy, was I wrong about that. And my ex had a totally different experience. I'm not going to tell her story here.
Why men are withdrawing, and why I'm not
Dating after divorce has been one of the hardest things I've ever done. This has pushed my emotional limits. I've been sober 12 years in AA. This has pushed my emotional limits farther than they've been since early sobriety. It's left me questioning like everything I know. It's left me feeling like the world is an awful place that's hopeless. Why even bother trying to date? I get why guys, especially, are withdrawing. It is hard being a man. I recognize that it's difficult being a woman also.
I did a short noting that, according to the objective statistics, and life is not really objective because it's your own subjective point of view, but men have it rough in almost every objective statistic. Life expectancy, crime victimization, family court treatment, criminal court treatment. And dating, it's just, as a man, you're put in a position to be humiliated over and over. By women walking around near where I live in Crescent Lake, I see this woman I think is very attractive. I start talking to her. Just rude. Ready to immediately dismiss me. And I just walk home. I'm like, God, that makes me never want to talk to a woman again. She just puts out just this F-you energy. Get away from me. I walk up and I just start, I approach her, I'm being chatty, and I just get this disgusted energy back.
And I'm like, I'm a decent looking dude. I'm not going to say I'm some Chad or anything. I'm a decent looking dude. There are some women that find me very attractive. Others that don't. I look pretty good. I have so much empathy. I don't know exactly what I'd rate, but I'd probably be a little above average. And I have status of being a YouTuber. I have kids, which is a plus to some, especially women that want to have kids, but a minus to others, to women that don't. I've got it better than most men. Now, maybe the downside of that is I expect more than a lot of men.
I will not tolerate a woman who's unhealthy. But then I tolerate a woman coming over to my house yesterday that's unhealthy. The worst I feel in dating is when I disrespect my own standards. When I say I'm not dealing with a woman that has substance abuse problems, and then I have a woman over that has substance abuse problems. And then I'm like, what are you doing, man? It's like, well, I'm desperate. I haven't gotten laid in forever. It's like, so what? So what? You went 19 years without getting laid, and you survived. You don't need to get laid. You do need to make some money, or you're going to be off somebody's couch. But I'm here to let you know, I am still all in on dating.
The more you can endure, the stronger you become
For all you guys that feel like this is so brutally difficult, that no man in his rational mind would tolerate this crap, I hear you. I agree with you. But here's a way to think about it. The more you can endure in dating, the stronger a man you can become. I just talked to a guy who paid to have a call with me. Absolutely horrendous situation he's in. The one thing I could pinpoint where he went wrong is he got with the woman that was pretty crazy to start with. He did that. And then he's been on the roller coaster ever since then. And I'm like, please, God, do not. Please keep the crazy ones away from me.
Did it go good with the girl from yesterday? I think I dodged a bullet. I think it went, it had the best possible outcome, that I had fun with her, we didn't do anything more than hold hands, and I don't want to see her again. In my evaluation, she is not in a healthy place in her life. And she is certainly not looking for marriage and family anytime soon. Maybe in the next decade. But I felt disrupted just being around her. She was the one who came over. I have no intention of seeing her again. I have every intention of, unfortunately, ghosting. If she messages me again, I have no intention of talking with her. Unless she wants an explanation, in which case I'll give it to her. Like, look, you need to clean your life up. Your life is a mess. And if you want to date me, I want you to only date me and not be hanging out with all these other dudes. And you need to get your eating right. You need to stop all this vaping and smoking and all these other substances you're doing.
And what about the one that just out of nowhere started blowing my phone up? She's texted me more than like any five women I've dated recently combined. But I don't see it with her. Is it nicer to just tell her directly and say, look, here's why I don't want to see you again? Like with the one I hooked up with last in November, I told her, I am not going to see you again as long as you're smoking marijuana. I will not see you again. I will not put up with that. And then the last time she messaged me was to say she was 11 days sober. And I'm like, I also don't want to deal with you in early sobriety. One thing that's worse, often, than having someone in the middle of an addiction is trying to deal with them right when they're quitting it.
So I just want to keep it really clear, though. Dating is worth it. Dating is rough, but the character building is worth it. And the potential to have a beautiful, happy relationship is so well worth it. It's worth the pain. It's worth the suffering. I write about this side of it in I Fell in Love With How I Showed Up, because the version of me that comes out of all this is someone I actually like. You can also follow along with everything I'm learning about this in my Dating playlist.
Double or nothing
I remember in my 20s, I struggled more than any of my friends dating. I had more dumb things happen dating. I was single more than any of my friends. Most of my friends consistently had girlfriends I consistently thought were attractive. Most of the guys I hung out with were good-looking, successful guys. And I was the one who just couldn't keep a girlfriend. I was the one that would often be with the least desirable girl. Or I'd be single. And my friends were blown away when I suddenly am the one that gets the most attractive, amazing wife. They were like, what the heck happened here? And I'm like, well, I went through so much pain and so much failure, and I learned so much, that I was in a position to get it right. Whereas a lot of my friends essentially cashed out. If you want to relate it to gambling, they cashed out instead of continuing to double down. They were happy to settle for someone that was pretty good, but also a liability in lots of ways.
I'm like, double or nothing, double or nothing. I'd lose and lose, and I'd start out double or nothing, double or nothing. And then I have what I think is the best relationship I had out of any of my friends. And now I'm divorced, and now, what happened? Well, that's a whole other video. What happened is, really, I grew so much and she didn't want to grow with me anymore.
I've made my share of mistakes on the dates themselves, too, which I get into in How I Ruined My Dream Date if you want to see how badly I can fumble even when everything lines up.
Discipline is something to be proud of
Some guys say being passive, not getting sexual, is failure. One thing I've heard from guys who found a great partner is that the chemistry that actually matters showed up when they were relaxed and not chasing, sometimes when they were passive on the apps. And I haven't even gotten to the point of being intimate again in the last seven months. Some guys say that's failure. But to me, being able to have the self-discipline to not get sexual with a woman that I'm not that interested in, to me, that's discipline. That's something to be proud of.
I want to minimize the increase in my body count going forward. And I want to have zero options, so that when the right woman comes along, I'll be able to focus on her. The girl from yesterday, she's focused on probably three to five different guys right now. I seemed to be the center of attention this weekend. But she seems to have three to five guys she's focusing on right now. When she was moving this morning, she didn't ask me to move her. Some other guy is doing that. So I don't want to be three of five or one of five, whatever. I want to be one of one. And I'm going to wait until the right woman comes along.
And if that means I'm single the rest of my life, I'd rather be single the rest of my life than deal with some crazy woman. I'd rather be single the rest of my life than settle for some woman I'm not that interested in, that's not that great in bed, that sabotages my business, that thinks I should be different.
There are millions of right women out there
I think there are truly quite a few right women out there. There's probably millions of women that would be a right woman for me, all over the world. As a friend put it, it's like a good crypto, it's like finding a needle in the haystack. But they're there. You'll find her. I'm excited for that. And I hope every man will get excited for that, too. That there are a lot of right women out there for you.
And if you're a woman, my dream scenario would be for a woman, maybe halfway across the country, say Utah, to watch this and be like, wow, this guy is single. This guy wants to have kids. This guy cares about being a father. This guy is sober. This guy takes really good care of himself. This guy is able to do this for his full-time work. That's going to be my future husband. And I picture a woman joining my community and direct messaging me and saying, hey, I want to go out with you. Here's a little bit about me. And I can't just let that be free, either, because then there'd be all kinds of dudes sending me pictures, scamming me. But a real woman. There are real women all over the country, I imagine, who would be willing to step into the Jerry Banfield Family and say, look, here's a picture of me, here's a little bit about me, I want to go out with you, I'll move to St. Petersburg to date you. And that's my dream scenario.
So I've been focusing as much as possible on my dream scenario. And I invite you to focus on that dream scenario. Men, focus on that dream scenario. Women, focus on that dream scenario. And keep going. Don't quit. Don't give up. Don't withdraw. Because you're guaranteed, you're guaranteed, doing that, to not get what you want. To not have the happiest life you could possibly think of.