I am certain telepathy is real, and in my experience there are only two types of people. One, people who know and have experienced the direct connection of thought from one person to another. And two, those who are ignoring all the evidence and intentionally trying to keep their minds private because they are scared of connecting with others.
This is such a powerful thing to know: that you are never alone in your own head, that the thoughts you're thinking are always being thought together with other people. I believe that if you're thinking of another person, you're sending an energy form out to them, and then they are often thinking of you as well. Now, yes, there are asymmetric relationships, where you have a love triangle and one person's thinking of one and the other person's thinking of another, but somehow it all sums up and makes sense.
Why I believe you're never alone in your head
Let me give you some concrete examples from my life. I've seen people before where one person would think of a number and the other person would instantly say the exact number correctly. The odds of that happening are too low to just be guessing by chance.
And I'll give you an even more clear example, because once you know that you're never thinking a thought by yourself, and that you're always thinking thoughts with everybody else, you'll never feel alone again.
The bigger example: what happened within 48 hours
I was a bit upset and feeling unsatisfied in my relationship with my wife last year. And she was having the same kinds of thoughts. She was thinking she might be better off just being single, being a single mom, and that I could go on and be with some other woman and have a whole other family. So both of us were thinking the same kind of thoughts.
And one particular night, I thought, you know what, if another woman wants to have me, she can have me. I put that thought very clearly and intentionally out into the universe. I spoke it aloud. I was talking to my mother, and I said, if another woman wants to have me, she can have me.
The next day, I was walking to my Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. There was this homeless woman I'd given money to repeatedly, because I give money to homeless people consistently. If that was me, if I was that desperate, I would want somebody who had plenty, as I do, to help. So I did this on Wednesday night. Thursday, I'm walking to my AA meeting, and I give this woman more money. And she says that if I want a date with her, she's available.
All the other times, all the other people I've given money to, nobody had ever said that before. And I was like, oh, thanks, but I'm married. She didn't seem to be bothered by that. But I said, you know, no thanks, I'm just helping you out because it feels good. And I walked into the meeting like, huh, that's weird. Last night I put that thought out to the universe, and today this woman comes up. Some people are like, yeah, if she's on the street and she offers you a date, you know what that means. I'm like, really? So I'm thinking, huh, that's interesting. And I was like, ooh, that's not what I was thinking of. Specifically, when I thought another woman could have me, I was thinking of someone more like my wife.
Then the next day, I go to another AA meeting. And there's a guy with like 40 years sober there. He hands me a piece of paper with a girl's phone number on it, an attractive girl who I had only met once in person. She had not seen me for maybe several weeks, maybe a month. On that same day, Thursday, the day after I put out the thought that if another woman wants to have me she can have me, the same day the homeless lady propositioned me, this girl gives her phone number to another guy that she knows knows me, to give to me.
I could feel like that phone number wasn't nothing. She gave it to him under the context of, you know, talk recovery, and sure, there's probably somebody who'd say it was just nothing. But I could feel the energy of that phone number — that it was in response to the thought I had that if another woman wants me, she could have me. And this all happened within 48 hours of putting that thought out.
Now, I generally do not get women making any kind of advances on me, because they know I'm married and I make that very clear, and I make it clear I'm in a monogamous relationship. In the 13 years I've been with my wife, it's very rare for women to do anything like that. Very rare. I mean, at an AA meeting, to give a phone number to somebody else, for somebody you've only seen once?
Why I threw the phone number away
I asked the guy, what do you think I should do with this phone number? And he said, given your situation — which he was aware of, because I shared much more detail at the meetings — given your situation, I probably wouldn't take that. I'm like, you think I should throw it out? And he's like, I think that'd be a good idea, but it was up to me to give it to you, so I gave it to you, so it's up to you.
So I threw the phone number out, because I felt like that wasn't a very good idea. At the same time, I was really grateful, and I put out thoughts thanking that girl. What a compliment, how nice of you to offer, I really appreciate the courage to do that. But then I changed my intention right after that. I said, okay, I revoke that previous intention, and I modify it: I'm not interested. And there has literally been nothing else since then, in the last year.
We think as a collective, like ants
So I am certain we are all telepathically connected. I am certain that we are not ever thinking thoughts alone in our own brain. Even if we appear to be physically isolated, we are always thinking as a part of a collective. All of our minds are connected. We are not separate.
If you look at ants on an anthill, it's obvious to me they're having thoughts collectively. They're not thinking thoughts by themselves. They're thinking as part of a collective, and they're all working together. And I believe we are doing that too. So I want you to know you're never having a thought by yourself. You're always having thoughts that are being thought of in a kind of collective pool of thoughts.
Now, you have a choice. You can ask for certain thoughts. You can put out certain requests to the pool of thoughts. But you're never having a thought alone. And in fact, in my experience, you've never had a thought alone or been alone. Being alone is a complete illusion. You are always connected and thinking thoughts with the rest of us. If this idea speaks to you, it's the same thread I pull on across my Life playlist, and it's part of why I keep loving my mind even when it thinks insane thoughts — those dark thoughts aren't only mine to carry.
Even the thoughts you're ashamed of
So especially if you have thoughts you feel are bad, that you feel are wrong, just know those are being thought of with a bunch of other people who are thinking the same thing. We collectively are aware of those thoughts. If this sounds crazy to you, here's where it comes from for me: by working the Steps in Alcoholics Anonymous and sharing my innermost thoughts — the things I didn't want to tell anybody — with other people, I've gotten to become aware of this level of connection.
So if you think this connection isn't there, just know it is there. You can access it whenever you're ready, and you can be aware of it whenever you're ready. This is the kind of inner work I share more of over in how I rewrote my own self-talk, and it's exactly the kind of conversation I love having directly with people in the Jerry Banfield Family.