Your entire dating life could change within the next 24 hours, and I'm going to describe exactly how that happened for me. I want to tell you that I'm not special. Everything that's happened for me — where dating, as I thought of it a week ago, has transformed so rapidly to where I am just dating one person now and I'm so excited about it, when a week ago I wasn't — I want you to know this can happen for you. The more you're aware that it can happen for you, the more you're ready for it to happen, the more you think about it happening to you, and the more you talk to the universe and to the person you want to meet, the faster it will happen.
Where I Was Coming From
If you haven't seen my videos before, I got divorced. I was with my ex for 15 years total between dating and marriage, I have two kids, I was born in 1984, and we got divorced last year. It's July 2026 now, and since October 2025 almost all of that dating was pain, misery, addictive feelings, frustration, and brief moments of excitement followed by being crushed, anxious, sad, depressed, and hopeless. Then trying again and failing again, and eventually going out on dates where I barely had any enthusiasm, feeling totally defeated going and paying for a matchmaking service, doing online dating, meeting women in person — trying everything. I went out with at least 10, maybe close to 15 different women this year without having sex with any of them, feeling no chemistry with most, and then feeling some chemistry with some who didn't feel anything back and wouldn't respond on the phone. All the videos out there talking about how dating is broken describe exactly the experience I was having.
Then on Monday this week — it's Friday now — I met a woman who absolutely changed the entire feeling of the whole equation. And I was in a space where I wasn't even approaching a woman. I wasn't talking to a woman, I wasn't asking for a phone number, I wasn't asking for a date. I was doing nothing. I was at the yoga studio with that attitude, and I'd had a woman or two actually approach me and be friendly, but I didn't do anything except match her energy. On this particular day, it was just a regular day where nothing interesting seemed like it was going to happen — the same kind of day I've had at the yoga studio being single a hundred times. I was folding my mat up.
I Was Ready
But here's the thing: I was ready. I was extremely aware of my desires. I was very aware of exactly what I was looking for — that I would love to be with a woman who's a content creator like me, a woman who plays tennis, who's healthy, who's active, who wants children, who's beautiful. I had all of that very firmly in mind. I also wanted to be my best self with her — to be confident, to walk right up and talk with her, to turn her on, to have a fantastic interaction, and then to be clear about communication and everything from there. I had my desire firmly in my mind.
In fact, two days before this, I'd been so miserable and frustrated that I yelled out in my house by myself. First off, there was a woman I thought I was going to date, and another woman I had dated, and then I went to one event where there were two different women I'd dated, which was pretty uncomfortable, and a third woman I was hoping would be there wasn't. I went home feeling like a mess. I cried on the floor. First I screamed out, "There is no higher power." And then after that I said — talking to my future woman — "If you want me to keep putting up with this, you better get here soon, because I'm really getting tired of all this crap." I put out that very strong, heartfelt desire directly.
I had a dating coach. I wrote down a gratitude list for all the women in my life. I did so much work — I was constantly, every day, working on being ready. And I stopped listening to all these losers who are just putting out junk, sabotaging people's chances to date, and talking about how dating is broken. Of course it's broken from their point of view. Then I took inventory on Sunday. I made a video asking, is anyone having fun dating? I had the realization that this should be fun, and I expressed my utter agony about dating very clearly. I felt so embarrassed after I put that video out. Before that, I'd also made a video about how I invite a woman to approach me without saying anything, and I followed it exactly.
On Monday I went to the yoga studio, and nothing special seemed to be happening, but I was putting out all the loving energy I talked about in that earlier video: thank you for all these women who are here today, thank you, I appreciate you being here. I was just putting out that loving energy at the studio. I was very much controlling what I was putting out and very much focused on sharing that with anyone around me. I did the yoga class, I didn't see anyone around who seemed interested in talking with me, and I thought I was just going home to a regular Monday. I had no idea what was about to happen. But I was ready.
To me, that's the most important thing: you get ready. And if you are single, if you're stuck, if you're tired of starting over, I'm here to help you. It might be some of the best money you ever spend. Schedule a one-on-one call with me and I will help you get ready to date, build a plan, and turn dates into relationships at last — which is exactly what I'm doing successfully for myself right now in the middle of this.
The Moment at the Yoga Studio
So I showed up to the yoga studio ready. But I had thought I'd showed up ready other times, and nothing happened. Just because you're ready doesn't mean something's instantly going to happen. But I wonder now how many times I wasn't ready and something could have happened — I just wasn't paying attention. I went to a class I wouldn't normally have gone to; I was thinking of going at a different time, but I just went to this class. And I saw a woman a couple of rows in front of me that I'd seen once or twice before. She was pretty, but she didn't know me — we'd never interacted at all.
I was getting my yoga mat and getting ready to go. I had my shirt on, I had everything ready to walk out — but I was listening. I was paying attention. I wasn't in my head about the videos I was making. I wasn't frustrated that nothing was happening. I was just paying attention to my environment. I'd noticed that sometimes when I went to the yoga studio in my own head about my videos, or in fear, or with my heart closed, it seemed like there were women walking by me being friendly and I just couldn't connect with them because I wasn't present.
But on Monday I was listening, and I heard this woman near me talking about how she had so many videos to edit. Another woman — and I didn't know either of them, I'd never talked to either of them — said something like, "Oh, are you a content creator?" And she said, "Yeah, I'm always filming videos. That's what I do." My ears perked up. Really? But then my head said, "You can't approach her. Remember what you said? You're never going to ask a woman out again." Then the woman who had been asking the questions walked away, and this woman was just standing there by herself, and I was just ten feet from her.
Meanwhile, my sponsor had just told me that what feels good to him is to take a risk. He said it sounded like my never-approaching strategy was a way to not take risk. He said in his life it feels good — not taking stupid risks, but taking a risk first, for the right reasons and in the right circumstance: a risk to bring some joy to somebody else's life and to connect. I thought of that, and I said to myself, I've got to talk to this woman. I have to talk to her.
So I walked up to her and said, "Hey, I heard you were talking about video editing. Are you a content creator?" I made sure I was watching the tone of my voice. I made sure to talk with force — not a timid, mumbled "hey, I heard you were a content creator," but walking up and embodying it. I spoke with a voice designed to show I'm a man looking to communicate with a woman and share. She started talking, and we ended up talking for 50 minutes after the class. I've talked more about that in some of my recent videos and vlogs, but I'm going to focus now on what happened after that.
I left there thinking, what just happened? That was so incredible. That woman was so amazing. My heart was just singing. Wow — she is so compatible. But my mind was also saying, wait, you don't know anything, it's too early. Yet already, in one conversation, I had qualified that the two of us were very compatible and that we were both single — and I brought all of it up super naturally, in a playful way, and it was all fun. I was thinking about her the whole rest of the day. And instead of playing any games or any of that, since she had texted me her name, within 30 minutes or an hour after I'd seen her I started texting her, and we ended up texting most of the evening and having a really nice conversation. When I woke up the next day, I was sobbing with love and gratitude. I felt a little crazy — dude, why do I have so much emotion about this woman? You just met her. It doesn't make any sense. But I did. I felt like my heart was just open and wanted to give everything I've got to give. And that was the opposite of my old approach.
In a lot of my dating I had been feeling totally closed-hearted, trying to protect myself, ready to withdraw at a moment's notice. And within this 24-hour period I went from "there are some women I know, maybe I'll date them, but they don't seem like they're just right for me, and it's frustrating" — from dating being frustrating and wondering when the hell am I going to meet someone, is there anyone out there — to, all of a sudden, 24 hours later: oh my God, I will do whatever it takes to be a great man for this woman.
Trusting Instead of Withdrawing
That morning I messaged her good morning — she had messaged me good night the evening before. Then I didn't hear from her for five hours, and my mind started in: man, were you all wrong about this? Here you go, you got excited. But then she responded back enthusiastically, and we had a great text conversation the whole week. We met up and had a fantastic date yesterday, we had a fantastic conversation, and we agreed that we just want to focus on pursuing this with each other. I canceled the matchmaking date I had scheduled for today. What the hell happened this week?
If you'd told me on Sunday that I was about to meet a woman I haven't felt this way about maybe ever — or at the closest, since I met my ex 15 years ago — that I was about to meet a woman who was going to change my life... I've just been crying all week. My heart has been so open. I've been releasing, I've been forgiving. I've had some of the old patterns try to come up with her — oh, she doesn't like me, why is she not responding? — and I just keep focusing: keep your heart open. I'm not going to believe any of that. I'm going to trust that she's interested until she expresses otherwise, and it's perfectly reasonable for her to take some time between messages. I refuse to let my heart close up, get in fear, and get defensive.
And I wonder now about some of the stories I've shared before, like the single mom who ghosted me — I made a whole video about that. If I had been feeling about that single mom the way I'm feeling about this woman now, there's a good chance she doesn't ghost me. Because I've come to believe we're all telepathically connected — some of us are just more aware of the connection than others — and what blocks things is having a closed heart that's defensive, scared, and full of resentment, fear, judgment, and hate. What's amazing is that this woman has taken the same open-hearted approach with me, and from what she's described, she's had a very similar experience going through this process. I hope we can do videos together in the future to talk about all of this in more detail.
Readiness, Not Luck
If you'd told me last Friday, "nothing's going to work out with any of the women you know now, but just wait — in a couple of days you're going to meet somebody who will absolutely blow you away"... that's the thing. I remember so many times I'd go to a yoga class, go home, and think, I didn't meet anyone, and this is crap. But I also feel that when I hit a maximum level of readiness, then I did meet somebody almost right away. My real job this whole time has been to get more ready, to be more prepared, and then to reach out to the universe.
Most of these other dating videos out there are so hopeless — junk that people talk about, all these strategies and trauma and reasons why everything's horrible. No. In my experience, there is absolute magic available to you. The miracles you may have heard about in things like religions — that has not stopped. Life continues to be miraculous. I can tell you from my own view that what I've seen in the last week has been absolutely amazing. Just meeting this one woman has been one of the biggest changes I've seen in my whole life. I feel so, so good.
My mom is telling me to slow down. I said, "Mom, remember how grateful you were to get a second chance after your first marriage ended? Remember how grateful you were to find Dad?" I can handle it if this doesn't work out. What I can't handle is playing it safe in the game of love. Because if anything, the more I opened my heart and got ready to just give everything, then someone was ready — and this woman responded really positively to that: wow, here's a guy who is really open-hearted and wants to offer all this love and joy to me.
I can see now that with the women I went out with before, I didn't feel that way, and I can see how they responded the way they did — saying there were no romantic sparks, or "I'm just not that attracted to you," or just not responding to my messages. With that single mom who ghosted me, I was putting out all this fear and mistrust energy toward her — this disbelief that she wasn't going to text me back, that she didn't mean what she said. And literally, that single mom had reached out after not seeing me for six months — the only person at a yoga studio where about 100 people knew me, one of the only attractive women there who had my phone number — she reached out to me and immediately asked me out on a date. We had a great date together. And then all I did after that was put out negative energy toward her.
With this woman I met this week, every time my mind tried to do that, I said no. I trust this woman, and I'm going to offer everything I have, and I'm going to keep doing that unless there's absolute destruction. I'm not going to just stop and close up and think, oh my God, I was wrong, I need to withdraw, I need to protect myself. No — I'm going to offer. If she doesn't text back for five hours, I'm going to trust that her feelings haven't changed and that as soon as she gets a chance, she will respond. I'm going to connect with her on a heartfelt, mind-felt level. And my God, it has felt so good. What's beautiful is that this seems to be just as good for her as it is for me. It seems like her whole life has shifted in the last week too — this has been like a quantum timeline leap for both of us. It's been a huge thing for both of us. And she said she didn't normally go to that yoga class either.
Get Ready — This Is Real Love
So I invite you to be ready and get prepared. This is not luck. This is being ready. This is trusting the universe. This is opening your heart. This is letting go of all these crappy stories people tell about dating. This is real love. Everybody keeps telling me, "I hope this works out." It's working out now. It's working out right now. I've loved my kids better this week. I've been able to love my mom more open-heartedly this week. Just meeting this woman has taken the filter off some of the love in my heart, and I've been loving everybody that much more — the people I've had calls with, my ex, everyone. You can follow this whole story as it keeps unfolding in my Dating playlist.
I also see that what I need to do in my business is be more ready to receive all that money in my business too, which is why I see that scheduling one-on-one calls seems to be the main thing you all want to do. Schedule a one-on-one call with me — imagine being able to share your unique situation and have me give you some concrete ideas on exactly what you could do specifically to be ready. Because to me, yes, fundamentally we all open our hearts to be ready. But practically, I take care of my appearance, I take care of my body, I'm constantly being careful about what I put in my mind and my body, and how I'm treating everybody impacts how ready I am.
I just want you to find the love of your life. I'm certain, no matter who you are, that there's someone who could love you like you've never been loved before, and that will be fantastic for you, for them, and for the world. Two people running into each other who love each other makes the entire world a better place. I believe we could probably end almost every single thing you think of as bad on this planet if we could just have more of us run into someone we really love — because that will help us love everybody else, and everybody across the whole world would be lifted up by it.