Why I'm quitting gaming to become a life coach
I want to talk about why I'm quitting being a gaming streamer, and quitting doing anything else online besides being a life coach, and how I foresee this playing out going forward. I also want to share what a life coach actually is, how I've helped others before, and how I'm available to help you. On top of that, I'm fully committed to YouTube and my podcast again. Each day I'll do one live stream that runs an hour or less total, live on Twitch. So if you want the best experience, that's where it happens first. I'll then take that live stream, put it up on YouTube a day later, and put it on my podcast, The Jerry Banfield Show. That way, the 99 percent, maybe 99.9 percent, of people who will never pay to work with me as a life coach will still be able to enjoy everything I have to offer creating each day at no cost, which I love.
And then for the one out of a thousand of you who wants something more than a video, a podcast episode, or a live stream, I've just gotten my website set up. Yesterday I went in and went to work on it. I took a life coach template, put my own stuff in there, and I'm amazed I cranked this out in a few hours. It looks good enough, and I value any of your feedback on it. If you want to work with me directly, today the best way to do that is to join the Jerry Banfield Family, where I show up and we can actually go back and forth on your life and your work.
I imagine most people won't want intensive one-on-one help, and that's great, because every single day I'll be putting out an hour or less of a live stream, a YouTube video, and a podcast recorded directly from that live stream. I'll have that out as something I can offer everybody at no cost, which I love. And then even a small handful of people who really need some intensive help covers everything I need to function completely well in my life. So it works out really well for everyone. Almost everybody gets a video every day and can hang out on Twitch, and then the person who really needs some intensive help, I'm totally available for.
My new setup online
This is my new website. I've got a few videos on there, links to Twitch, some basic questions and answers, and a little tiny bio. I've got a few testimonials, though I still need to make sure everyone's cool with those. And I've also put an email sign-up back up so you don't get lost in the shuffle. If you want a once-a-week email with the seven different videos or seven different live streams I did that week, you can sign up for that. So this is my new setup online, and this is what I intend to do indefinitely.
So yes, I am back to YouTube, and I intend to stay on YouTube, only in the capacity of putting up Twitch recordings there every day. Unlike what I was doing before, making all these different videos, I'm just going to do one live stream, an hour or less, each day and put that on YouTube. Each day I'll create some kind of life coaching topic. Some days it'll just be things I'm thinking about, and it'll be more like teaching. Other days it'll be things I'm learning, and it's where I'm learning that I'm also very effective at coaching.
Why I'm walking away from gaming
A lot of you are wondering why I'm quitting gaming. My mom asked me last night. She said, "You just told me yesterday you were enjoying that game so much." And I said, yeah, mom, I am enjoying the game. The game's fun. But I need to have a real job and a real career, and playing video games is not a real job and a real career. Not for me. And consider the position I'm at. I was born in '84. I have a seven-year-old and a four-year-old. I've attained pretty close to the heights of gaming success. I made over six figures last year, which probably 99 percent of people who've ever been a gaming streamer have not done. And I don't want to continue having a career as a gaming streamer. I'm tired of playing video games all day. That's what I do.
Five months ago, I meditated for five hours in the car. I dropped a dog off at my mom's house and I drove eleven hours. I took five of those hours with no music, no books, no calls, and just drove, with one question: what do I do with my career? What do I do with my work, my profession? And I got a very clear answer out of it. Life coach. So I rebranded my stuff to life coach. With life coaching, I had a very clear sense that this is the direction, this is the best I have to offer people professionally. Now, I'm free to play video games, but that should be a hobby in my spare time. Considering the wholeness of my life, playing video games is not something I want to continue doing professionally. Being a life coach is what I want to do professionally.
I've uploaded over 4,000 videos on YouTube. Probably the number one kind of video I've uploaded over the last eleven years has been life coaching. I've also uploaded a lot of gaming content, but consider this: the thing that really made the gaming content stand out is that I had the life coaching in it. Five months ago, when I focused very clearly, meditated, and took hours to just sit with one simple question, I got a very clear answer. I was hoping I could use the video games as a background for it. When I started playing Gods Unchained, my hope was that I could just play the game in the background and we'd talk life stuff and life coaching the whole time.
When I was playing Call of Duty: Warzone on Facebook, at what some would say was the height of my gaming success, I had hundreds of thousands of views. Lots of views, lots of money. What made it unique is that I was playing the game and essentially doing life coaching the whole time. I'd camp in the airport tower and I'd talk about life topics. I'd talk about getting sober. I'd talk about having healthy relationships. I'd talk about a winning attitude and a winning mindset. That's what I really have to offer. That's why I can play pretty much any game and stand out. Maybe not some games. Maybe playing Hades was a bit of a stretch. But I can play lots of different games and people are drawn to watch, and it's because of my attitude, my personality, and what I can offer as a life coach.
The games got in the way
The games have proven to get in the way more than they provide a good background. If I look at my Twitch viewers right now, I'm really happy we've got 22 viewers. That's a lot more than we had a few months ago. That said, if I were doing Gods Unchained, we'd probably have twice as many. But I can't focus. It's too garbaged up. The main thing I need to give is life coaching, and unfortunately the gaming has been getting in the way of it. The gaming becomes the primary show, and I try to slip a little life coaching in between it. I've done that for years, and I've gotten to the point where that is no longer acceptable. I feel like I'm going halfway on my life coaching and halfway on my gaming, and one has to get dropped.
I find that going all in on things tends to produce the best results for me. I think that's the best approach in life, because if you go all in, you're either going to get the maximum rewards or you're going to get out of that situation quickly. If you go all in on a relationship and it's the wrong relationship, you should at least get out of it pretty quickly. If you go all in on the wrong video game and people don't like it, then it's very apparent quickly that you need to switch games. It's time for me to stop going halfway on gaming and halfway on life coaching, and the gaming has got to go. Being a gaming streamer actually ruins the enjoyment of playing video games for me a lot of the time, and I'd rather just focus on the life coaching.
Someone pointed out that you have no time to talk about life coaching when you're asking what card to play every turn, and that's exactly it. If I'm going to make a great gaming stream, it takes up too much time to talk about the game, and we can't do the real work. That's the trade I'm no longer willing to make.
Designing the show around you
Here's a big life coaching lesson in all of this. The games are merely a distraction from yesterday's realization. I've been thinking about each of you who's really here for the show, and I've been thinking: if I put myself in your shoes and I want to watch Jerry Banfield, what format of show is going to be best for me? Let's say I'm you. I've got stuff to do. I've got things to get done, family to be with, maybe a date, self-care, all of it. Now let's put Jerry into that world. If Jerry does a one-hour-or-less live show a day, that's something pretty easy to consume. Most days you can find 30 minutes or an hour to watch a very focused, straight-up-talking, no-distractions show.
But if Jerry's doing four-hour gaming streams every day, and the majority of it is playing a game you've never seen before, now that's much more difficult to deal with. That requires you to essentially hang around and linger, waiting for the good part. I don't want to ask that of you anymore. I'd rather give you something focused and valuable that respects your time.
Why I choose life coaching over gaming
If a stream is in a pure format, like 30 minutes or an hour, there aren't going to be that many people in the chat. It's more of a pure experience. If you've got a four hour gaming stream and most of the talk is about the game, that's not as good of an experience. And it's the viewers who have watched for a long time and who really care about the life coaching that matter to me most. I recently saw, at two in the morning, that the gaming is getting in the way of giving to the people who really care about what I've got to give the most. The gaming is very transactional.
So here's a life coaching lesson. If you're wondering, what's the main difference between therapy and life coaching? What is a life coach even? I'm here as a life coach to help you take effective inventory of your present and aim at a future you would like to experience, with consideration of others. That means, unlike therapy, where therapy spends a lot of time looking back at the past and trying to figure out why things are the way they are today, I don't really care why things are the way they are today. I care what you are going to do with the way things are today and where you want to go from here. Life coaching is very present and future focused.
And I live as a life coach. I'm constantly taking inventory of my present and looking at where I want to go. Where I've recently grown is with consideration of others. So if I consider all seven billion people on this planet the most, do those seven billion people most want me to focus on life coaching or to be a professional God's Unchained player? I can tell you the amount that want me to be a professional God's Unchained player is very small. The amount that want me to be a life coach and to give all this is very large. Because of the impacts on each individual person, each person I impact through my life coaching, through my show, impacts another person, and they impact another person, and the network effect means each of us makes a massive difference in the world if we see how we're all connected. So I choose life coaching. That's a much different life trajectory than being a professional gamer.
The Venn diagram of what you give and what you get
Now, I'm not saying somebody else shouldn't be a professional gamer. I'm saying the magic comes into play when we consider what I have to give, and I consider what people want to receive, and then what are people willing to give, and what do I want to receive? We make a Venn diagram where all four of those circles intersect, and then I go for the middle. There are lots of viewers that want God's Unchained streamers. I've gotten to the point where I can give God's Unchained streams, but I also want to receive some money, and the people who want to watch God's Unchained streams don't seem to be interested in giving much money to watch them. I want to receive some money for what I do, to have a real job and career, and being a gaming streamer generally is not a good way to have a career or a job.
It's a good way to have a hobby. If you're willing to devote your life completely to being a gaming streamer and put in 60, 70 hours a week, and you can afford to not have any expenses in the rest of your life, like living at home with your parents or with a spouse so you can just play video games and then crank videos out on all these other platforms, you can do that indefinitely. Then you're in a good position where you can give what you want to give, people are going to give you what you want to get, people want what you have and you want what they're going to give you. That all works out very well. But I want to make a good income at this point in my life, and being a gaming streamer is not a good way to do that.
I also want maximum fulfillment in my life, and being a gaming streamer is not a good way for me to do that either. When I win a few games at God's Unchained, sure, I get a little bit of a high, but I end up logging off the stream thinking I just kind of jerked around and didn't really do anything worthwhile. When I do a life coaching video, when I talk about how I got sober, when I talk about what I've learned about being a great husband, when I talk about what I've learned about how to take care of my body, when I talk about how I've lost 80 pounds and kept it off, when I talk about aliens and extraterrestrials and exopolitics and how to realize that some of these thoughts in your head may not be your thoughts. In my experience, they may be extraterrestrials that are trying to sabotage you with these thoughts and manipulate and control you. Some of what you might think of as evil or sinful or violent or crazy thoughts, some of those may be extraterrestrials trying to mess with you and get you to do bad things so that you can serve them instead of being a joyful human. When I do that, I feel that I've given something really worthwhile. But when I just go slap other people in a video game or clear another instance in Hades, I don't feel that I've really given the best of what I have to offer.
Getting aligned in career and relationships
This is the same kind of thing in relationships. Some people you'll be with in a relationship, because of your compatibility, you won't be able to give them what they really want and they won't give you what you really want. The only solution generally is to find somebody else because you two just aren't lined up, or to change so that each of you matches up better. This is what I'm learning in my professional career. It's important to make sure I'm giving what I really need to give and I'm getting what I really need to get. And you are getting what you really need to get and you're giving what you really want to give. This is why, looking forward, I want to be in a place that's sustainable too.
Someone asked, how's our million dollar debt goal? I want to be debt free. And I see that if I want to be debt free, the number one thing I need to do is change to being a life coach. If I want to be debt free and do work that I love and keep the rest of my lifestyle, then it's time to go all in on the life coaching and drop the video games. Because if video games are getting in the way of my life coaching, it doesn't work for me to just play video games and then offer my life coaching services in the background.
One thing that was great about going all in on God's Unchained was seeing the level of total commitment. I put in $10,000. I'll be happy to get $5,000 back. I've just sold like $1,700 today, and I don't know, a couple thousand more. I'll be happy to get half of what I put in back. And I'm not bothered by it, because if I really want to be debt free, life coaching is where I need to go right now. That's the core of life coaching: looking around, taking true, full inventory and saying, okay, based on where I'm at and where I want to go, what actions do I need to take today to go where I want to go?
I want to be debt free. My wife and I have over a half million dollars in debt. I would like to have none. Now, sure, there's a lot of student loan debt in there, that's my wife's. There's house debt in there, a mortgage, and there are government business loans, SBA loans, which are mostly mine. I want to eliminate all that debt, because having debt makes it much easier to feel financial insecurity, contributes to fear of not having enough, and gives you a lot less room for error.
Why I give the coaching away for free
I'm so grateful to be supported doing the life coaching, because I know I can keep giving you this indefinitely. The one thing I've consistently proven over the last 11 years is that no matter what else I'm doing, the life coaching will always get slipped in there. Whether I'm playing video games, doing Steam, or teaching, no matter what I do, the life coaching is coming through.
Someone in chat said I'm a mind reader, so on point. And that's some of the really cool things I can teach you and help you develop on your own, because in my experience human beings are telepathically connected. If we know the truth of telepathy, we can very much read other people's minds if they're open to it. Another viewer said, the funny thing is most of us want advice but never ask for it. I don't know I need advice until you say something that makes me perk up and listen harder. I love that. And that's why I'm here, because I need my life coaching to go out to the majority totally for free. I have limited time, and if I'm going to work directly with a client one on one, that's a much bigger commitment. So I realize that for the majority of people on earth, that isn't practical. That's why I'm committed to doing one hour totally free every day. If you just listen to this, you can get most of what I would say. The only difference with working closely together is that I'm going to listen very carefully to you, which then lets me provide more focused help. If you want that closer connection and to keep this going with me, the best way to work with me today is to join the Jerry Banfield Family.
But I love that if I say something on here, it can inspire you to have a conversation with your partner, with your family members, with your friends. You don't need a paid life coach to help you. I have all kinds of people who act as life coaches in my life. I have a sponsor who's in his 80s in Alcoholics Anonymous, and he has been a life coach for me. He mostly leads by example. He stays sober now, for over 40 years, no matter what. And I'm accountable to him. I tell him every day.
The coaching I got for free, and why I want to pass it on
What I've gotten from this guy in Alcoholics Anonymous is, to me, what I would have to pay somebody else hundreds of thousands of dollars for. Life coaching, totally for free. And my intention is that by me doing life coaching here, I can help the majority of you tap into the other people in your life more effectively. Because most of you don't ever need to be a client with me. If you just watch, or some of you support, that's plenty. That's good, I'm good with that. But if you realize there's a subject you could use some advice on, I hope that by listening here you can find subjects in your life where you think, hmm, maybe I could use some dating advice. Or maybe I could use some advice in my career, or my health. And I encourage you to ask lots of different people, because sometimes the experts have it wrong, and just asking a regular old person in your life might prove most effective.
If I won the lottery
Someone asked me: pretend you don't have to factor in finances. If you won the lottery, what would you do? Honestly, if I won the lottery, I wouldn't do anything differently. In certain situations you might have to do things differently. For example, if you suddenly have $100 million, that may bring out the worst in the people around you. In one way or another, it may bring out the worst in the people around you, coming over to your house. So I don't play the lottery, because I don't want to win the lottery. If I suddenly had $100 million, I would probably have to move.
The first thing I would actually do is figure out how to start giving it away. Because the way I look at it, once I've got enough, I just want to give the rest out. Like playing Gods Unchained, I was giving out ten gods every time I won.
Finding the one thing I want to give
I've been trying to be a life coach off and on for quite a while. And thankfully, being a gaming streamer has very effectively prepared me to go all in on the life coaching. I had a hard time with the life coaching before, for a lot of different reasons. What I can see is that I'm finally set up to go all in, identify fully as a life coach, and when I'm online, that's all I'm going to do.
I was thinking about a creator like Supoman Crypto. He doesn't put a whole bunch of crap online. He's tested a lot of data, tested different things over the years as a creator, but he's found what he really likes to give, and he's found what he gives that people really like to receive. He gives out the best information he has about cryptocurrencies, and that's what he does. He doesn't do a whole bunch of other stuff online. He's tested playing video games, he made a Minecraft YouTube channel that did well, he's made Udemy courses. But he's got it down: he does live streams on Twitch for crypto games, or for crypto. And I've been wondering for a long time, what is my one thing? What is the one thing I do? What is the one thing I can give online where, if I give that, I don't really need to give anything else? If I give effectively as a life coach, I don't need to play video games. I can just play video games offline anytime I want to, and you don't need me to play video games for you.
It's been a challenge for me to figure out life coaching, because so much of our programming tells us that you need to be specific. That you should be an engineer, or a gamer, or a basket weaver. Or you should work in a factory, or you should be a doctor or a lawyer. A plumber. A handyman. Whatever you do, pick something specific and stick with it. Well, sometimes it can take a while of trying a lot of different areas to figure out where you want to be specific. I've just continued to wonder, because I don't seem to have a very specific thing. And life coach is kind of a general, catch-all thing, which is nice for somebody that just wants to help you take the hand of cards you've been dealt and play it as effectively as you can, in your interest and in others'.
I love that people find me through connections like Supoman's streams, because you can see the value of connections in life. I'll avoid going live, if I can, while Supoman is live, because I love watching his streams. His streams inspire me, and if I'm live when he's live, then I can't watch. With me only being live for an hour a day, I shouldn't have so much overlap with him now.
What do you have to offer that people want to receive?
One thing I can help with as a life coach is figuring out, well, what do you have to offer that people want to receive? Where the people who are receiving it will give you what you want to receive, and where you'll be happy receiving what they want to give you. That's what's tricky, putting all that together. I've been wondering lately what is the best thing I could do with myself, because I know there are so many things I can do. I could go be an engineer, I could be a massage therapist, I could drive a garbage truck, I could go back to being a police officer. There are a ton of things I could do. But what do I really want to give, that somebody else, or that collectively people, really want to receive, and where the people receiving it want to give back what I want? So the life coaching, to me, seems to have it all.
I love giving the life coaching. Maybe not as many people, at least in a Twitch live stream, want to receive my life coaching right now. But I've been thinking a lot long term: if I live stream for the next 50 years, what can I give now that in 50 years I will still be just as excited to keep giving? And the only thing I can see with a nearly 100 percent chance of that is life coaching. There's no way in 50 years I'm going to be up for live streaming video games. There's no way in 50 years I'm going to want to talk about crypto still as the main topic every day. And I love that life coaching offers flexibility. I can do a whole stream on crypto one day, then the next day I can talk about raising children, and the day after that I can talk about alien abductions. There's freedom in being a life coach, which is beautiful. If you want to go deeper on any of this with me, you're welcome to join the Jerry Banfield Family and bring your own questions.
Standing up, moving, and my own health
I don't realize how much I move sometimes. I'll do like chair pose, like yoga, right now. If I was sitting down, I'd generally be much more quiet. If I'm sitting down I'll often be much more monotone and I won't move as much, which is not as interesting and doesn't stand out as much either. Whereas you get me standing up like this, and we can jump, we can dance around, we can move around the different cameras. And for health, I used to have a lot of back pain and neck aches. You'll notice I often move back and forward. I don't usually just stand in one spot for too long. I back up and I come forward. This is much more eye-catching, but for my own personal health, moving like this has, in my experience, eliminated neck pain and back pain in my life.
This is why I love my life coaching, because I'm very well rounded. My health has been a challenge. Not a lot compared to some of you, but in my own life it has been a real challenge, to the point where nine years ago, at the worst of it, I was throwing up blood in the morning. I was 80 pounds overweight. I could not stop drinking. I felt totally out of control with my body. My thoughts were a lonely, violent, crazy mess when what I wanted was to be loving and kind. I was often doing physical fitness that was too challenging, I had a lot of back pain and neck pain, I was often getting sick, often took things like Advil, or would go to the doctor just to get them to give me antibiotics or something. My health was lots of physical pain and lots of mental and emotional pain. In my experience, I've eliminated almost all of that.
Being Down Is an Opportunity to Change
A couple of days ago I was doing my God's Unchained stream and I was down. I was depressed. In my experience, being down and being depressed is an opportunity to change, because I find that when I'm living my purpose, when I'm giving what I really want to give to people who really want to receive it, and they're giving me what I really want to receive and what they want to give, it's difficult for me to feel bad for more than a few minutes or a few hours. Sure, sometimes bad moods just go around like viruses and you catch one for a little while, but you know in your head that it's going to pass, just like a virus. You get a virus and you think, okay, this is either going to kill me or it's going to pass, and I haven't died yet, at least in this lifetime. The other lifetimes are a whole other topic, but we'll stick to this one. A bad mood will just pass. It's not something permanent.
A lot of the bad moods we struggle with, and a lot of physical pain, are things we can make changes in our lives to get rid of. What's crazy is that the real resistance often comes from our own identity. We identify as a person who's sick and in pain, so if you make changes you also have to let go of that identity. I'm glad I got this standing desk, because it was part of me letting go of an identity of being a person who has back pain and headaches. I got willing. I said I'll do anything it takes to get rid of back pain and headaches for good. I don't want to just take an Advil and numb the pain right now. I want to understand why my back and my neck hurt, and I want to help them.
Human Bodies Are Not Designed to Sit All Day
Sitting down a lot contributes to back pain and neck pain, because in my experience human bodies are designed to be upright or flat most of the time. You can certainly sit here and there, but human bodies are generally designed to be upright and flat: flat when you're asleep, upright most of the rest of the day, or in certain situations like kneeling down. But they're designed to be mobile. Human bodies are not designed to sit in a chair all day. Sitting in a chair all day is terrible for your body and will contribute to back pain and neck pain. And then if you have weight to go along with it, and you sit down with back pain and neck pain, you're also likely to catch some knee pain and some foot pain in the process.
So I stand up and I keep moving. I'm generally moving almost all day, and then when I sit down it's kind of a luxury. I think, I'm going to take a couple of hours to sit down, because there are so many things in life you have to sit down at, like Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. I've stood up at meetings before, but it's pretty awkward. If there's something I really need to sit down for, or it's much easier if I sit, like an AA meeting, that's a nice time to sit. Then I stand up and move around most of my day, and I'll sit down at an AA meeting, or sit down at night to watch some TV, watch some Star Trek with my mom. I maybe spend two or three hours a day sitting down. All the time I spend in my studio, especially when I was doing four, five, six hours a day in the studio, my back and neck feel so much better not sitting down all that time.
Opening Up for the Answer
What I'm grateful for is that when I get to be down more than usual, I look around and open up more for change. When I was playing God's Unchained and I felt just miserable for a couple of days, I kept asking, what do you want me to do? If you noticed, I kept saying I felt like I was wasting my time, like there had to be something better for me to do. For about a month I'd been consistently asking, isn't there anything better for me to do? What is better that I could do? And yesterday at two in the morning I woke up and got a very clear answer: this is what's better for you to do.
What's interesting is that sometimes we're not open for the answers. Thankfully I don't default to being all upset anymore. I woke up at two in the morning and I thought of what Wayne Dyer said about divine guidance often coming through in the early morning. About three weeks ago I'd had a similar revelation, and I'm glad this one came. My mind was just fully on, and I thought, here it comes, the divine guidance is about to hit me, isn't it? And the first thing I started thinking was in fear. Sometimes fear will be the first way we receive revelation. The first line of thinking was, what if God's Unchained as a video game doesn't work? What if Immutable X comes crashing down? What if crypto generally gets regulated? What if the value of all the cards and all the community you've built all comes crashing down? And I thought, well, that would suck, wouldn't it.
What Can You Offer That Will Never Come Crashing Down
Then I was thinking, well, what else am I going to do? I'm not even sure quite how I got over to this, but the next line of thinking was something like, what can you offer that will never come crashing down? Going all in on God's Unchained leaves me very vulnerable to that whole thing coming crashing down and going back to zero. So, what can you offer that will never come crashing down? Life coaching. Oh yeah, I guess that'll never come crashing down, will it. Even with all the ups and downs of this year, you're still here. Sure, some people aren't here, but we don't need them. The ones who are here are the ones who need to be here. Life coaching is something I can do for 50 years, and I never have to worry about it coming crashing down. And if I want to play God's Unchained in my free time off stream, I'm more than welcome to do that.
I'm glad that today I'm able to let that mental process go, through the grief and the unfortunate pain that had happened to me. I had a disquieted mind, but overall I'm quite satisfied. I'd had a similar revelation maybe a couple of weeks ago, and I think it prepared me for the one yesterday. About a week ago I considered quitting God's Unchained completely and becoming a handyman or a general contractor, but I woke up and that idea was clearly not aligned with what I want to give and what other people want to receive. Then when the life coaching came up, I thought, oh, that's perfectly aligned with what I want to give, and that's perfectly aligned with what those of you who really care about Jerry Banfield want to receive. If that's you, the best way to keep walking this out with me is to join the Jerry Banfield Family, where we do this work together.
God's Unchained is a game where it's nice to go all in or not even play it. If I was going to go all in and stream a game, it would definitely be God's Unchained. But realizing life is larger than ourselves is a very humbling experience, and it's a very comforting and connecting one too. In all that thinking I was doing, I also expanded. I'd been setting up this vision of wanting to be a professional God's Unchained streamer, but I don't think that works very well for everybody else.
The Kind of Stuff I Really Want to Talk About
In the course of considering what to do with myself, I started listening to this book called Dark Fleet, and I was taking a walk with my mom's dog while I listened. It's clear the author is in their purpose; they love all this stuff. Dark Fleet is about a race of what you'd think of as aliens or extraterrestrials called the reptilians. They live underground and they're much more advanced than what you'd think a 3D human being is like, although human beings are really even more advanced. They've essentially manipulated humanity and made hybrids, taking control of humanity discreetly in the background. They've been depicted in all the pictures of dragons and in ancient cultures, the reptiles and beings with other heads and snakes. The idea is that many of the highest-level human leaders are controlled by these advanced extraterrestrials that go by the name of reptilians, or Draco reptilians. According to the book, the Draco reptilians were responsible for the rise of Germany and Japan into these warring powers, and for getting that German influence into and corrupting the USA for much of the last century as well.
So I'm listening to this book, and we'll have a whole conversation on that one day, but I'm thinking, man, this is the kind of stuff I want to be talking about. And I can't even talk about it hardly while I'm playing God's Unchained, because it's kind of a distraction. The other day while I was playing, I was trying to talk about God and higher power and universe and oneness and power and all that, and it just felt like a distraction, like, come on, just play the game. What is this, a religious conversation? And I'm like, no, this is what I really want to talk about, and I don't really care about the rest.
I know some people have expressed sadness that I'm not playing God's Unchained anymore, or any game on stream, and this is why I want to set up for the future. One of my main things, and this is kind of my foundational life coaching, is that I give almost everybody the exact same advice whenever they ask.
Look at where you are and where you want to go
My main advice is to look at what you've got today, look at where you want to go in the future and where other people would like to go with you, and then do whatever it takes to get there. A lot of us, especially those of us who are struggling, get stuck right here. I'm not struggling. My life has just enough challenges to make it interesting. If I suddenly had a million dollars and all my debt was immediately gone, if I instantly had a full life coaching schedule and a hundred times as many viewers and followers, it would ironically be less satisfying, because the journey is what's fun and the challenge is what's enjoyable. If my debt vanished and my viewership and coaching were instantly a hundred times more successful in terms of viewers and money and prestige and all that crap, there'd be nothing left to reach for. So I've got this little maybe yeast infection or rash or something, we'll throw that in there too, and maybe my kids' teeth could be a little better. But I am on the edge. I'm on the edge of not having any personal challenges at all. None.
Where I actually want to work: collective human consciousness
Where I want to be working is on collective human consciousness. I want to be working on world peace. I want to be delivering ideas like the one I'm about to deliver to you right now. If we really wanted to end a war somewhere, if we really collectively wanted to end the war between Russia and Ukraine, we could end it right now, mentally. Nobody would have to go over there. I'm not sure of the exact number of people who would need to participate, but at a minimum, maybe 10 or 20 times as many people as are actually over there. So if there are a few million people involved in the conflict, you'd need about 10 or 20 times that many to participate. If you had at least 100 million people all putting out peace and love for everybody in Russia and Ukraine, and I try not to follow the news carefully so I don't know every country involved now, but if a few hundred million people meditated and prayed for peace and love, and thought about how much each person over there is loved, how much we understand them, how those are our brother humans and how we want to be peaceful with each other, the soldiers over there would be hit with such a strong mental wave of energy that all soldiers on all sides would either drop their guns, or, if there are soulless hybrids or something, be physically restrained by those with souls.
The evidence I lean on
Now, you might say that's a fanciful imagination, so I'll give you some evidence. In my understanding, they've done studies where small groups of people meditating reduces the crime rate in cities. Small groups of people meditating and praying for peace, thinking about love and nonviolence and helping each other, have reduced crime rates in big city areas. They've run studies that, as I understand them, show you have these people meditate and the crime rate in the city they're meditating in drops.
I'll give you another example that runs in a different direction. In one of the World Wars, I don't remember whether it was the first or the second, on Christmas Day the soldiers put their guns down, walked through the trenches over to enemy lines, swapped cigarettes and rations, shared food and company and drink, and had shared camaraderie. The next day they picked their guns back up and resumed shooting at each other. Think about that. Nothing changed from Christmas Eve to Christmas Day to the day after Christmas. Nothing physically changed. The war was still on. The only thing that changed was the mindset of the people. On Christmas Day there was a level in the human consciousness of love and peace and compassion and connection that brought the soldiers into alignment with it, that allowed them to temporarily disregard what they'd been told and ordered to do, and to see their brother as a brother instead of an enemy.
Why I can't waste my time
I'm telling you, that transformation is possible on this entire planet, all the time. These are the ideas I have to work on. I can't piss my time away playing a video game when I can work on ideas like these. And just having that idea in your head, even if you think it's crap, even if you think it's a lie, even if you think it's just an opinion, changes things, because I know the truth of it. We're all telepathically connected. As long as we expect war, and support war, and fight with each other, and fail to understand war, and stay oblivious to other influences that are hell bent on war and destruction and domination of humanity, this is what we get. If we change our thinking, and if we change how we see each other, we don't have to have wars anymore. We can resettle the influences that are here, or take away the forces contributing to more war and violence, and we can live in the kingdom of God.
You are God, and you are one among billions
You are God. To me, the core teaching of Christianity is that even the least among you is God. Even the least among you can do all that Jesus did, and greater things. Jesus was simply showing people the potential they all had inside. The message got obscured into "he is God and you're not," and that's a system of control that, in my belief, was perpetuated by those who seek to control humanity. Long after the fact, the church got hold of Jesus' message and said, look, he's God, you're not, and they put all this other crap around it. But the core of his teaching was that you are God. All of you are God. A child of God is God, just like the child of a human is a human. Not God alone, but a part of the totality. You're not a human alone. You are a human within a collective of billions of other humans on this planet. You are never alone.
Someone in the chat put it well: just wake up every day remembering you are not larger than life. That balance is really important. It's important to remember that on some level you are God and this is your universe and you've created all of it. You created this body and all the other bodies and everything else that's happening. So the first question people want to ask is, well, why would I make all this suffering and misery and sickness and death? Because you're God. Because you can make whatever you want. Why would you play a game that's a first person shooter where people are killing each other? Because it's interesting. Because it's a challenge. Because it's something to do. On one level, you are God and this is your universe. On another level, you've created it as a kind of game that you're stuck in as an individual character, just getting dragged along with everything else that's happening.
So what I keep in mind is that balance of the big and the small. On the biggest level, I'm God. On the smallest level, I'm one human among seven-plus billion humans on this planet, one soul among an infinite number of souls. To some degree I'm just like a cell in the body, getting dragged along by the rest of the body. It's interesting to put both of those together and hold them at once.
Where to go from here
We've hit an hour now, so I'm going to wrap this up. I'm here every day with free live conversation and interaction, reading what you write, talking about whatever's on my mind and whatever I think can help you each day, and much of it lives on in my Life playlist if you want to keep going after this one. If you want to actually work through these ideas with me and be in the room where these conversations happen every day, the best way to do that today is to join the Jerry Banfield Family and be part of the community.
Thank you for being here. This has been very meaningful. I love the conversations we've had, and I love each of you. I'll be back tomorrow, and we'll keep working on these ideas together.