It's August 20th, 2026, and this is my vlog. Thank you for watching. I'm really grateful today. I have a date scheduled for tomorrow night, and the woman seems to be very interested and excited about it. I'm looking forward to seeing her. And I made over $300 today. One single guy who found me on X came in and dropped $327 today. I'm super grateful, and that's the second day this week I've made over $300 in a single day doing everything, and it's because of everything I've got set up on my website. He first came in and bought the chat, then he bought the talk-to-me for 10 minutes. Then he was enjoying talking to me, so he bought the talk-to-me for 30 minutes twice more right after that, and he's like, "Oh, you do dating coaching too? Nice."
What's really cool is that he actually found me on X instead of YouTube, when almost everybody normally finds me on YouTube. I added all my impressions up: my videos have gotten around 2 million impressions in the last month on YouTube, which is amazing, and several hundred thousand more on X. I'm super grateful for that.
Going hard on the in-person approaches at yoga
Dude, and my game has gotten ridiculous. Some of y'all who think I must not be very functional in person, you should see what I do in person. So I went to yoga today, and I put my mat down next to this girl who's just gorgeous, and she's so friendly. I'm being manly in my conversation. I'm making statements instead of asking questions. I'm making jokes. I'm teasing. She's even looking at me and smiling during the yoga flow at some points, which is unusual, especially for someone I just met. I'm like, nice, maybe I can get a date. While I'm also shouting stuff out in class: when the yoga instructor says, "How are we doing?" I yell, "Fired up now!" It reminds me of when we'd always be yelling stuff like that in ROTC, and it felt good.
After class, I made sure to ask. I told her, "You know, you're giving me single vibes." She said, "No, I actually have a boyfriend. I'm just really friendly." I'm like, "Really? You're one of the friendliest people I've met in here. Your boyfriend's a lucky man," or something like that, and continued the conversation. And I felt good that I asked, because I was definitely asking her out.
Then the yoga instructor made this announcement, like, "If you want to talk to me, there's nobody here for three hours afterwards, talk to me after class." So I was talking to this other girl, and then I talked to the yoga instructor. I'm like, all right, we need to check if she's single also. So I talked with her a little bit, and I said something like, "You know, I just have to make sure you're not single." She's like, "Oh, I've got a boyfriend." I'm like, "Good, good. I think people are much happier in relationships." I told her I do dating videos and that I think dating's important. I asked where she met her boyfriend and stuff. She was enjoying the conversation until I guessed her age five years higher than it was. I said, "Well, you're giving off some wise vibes." She's like, "Yeah, that's what my mom says."
And then I left the yoga studio feeling a little bit of fear. I'm like, dang, I'm going hard on these in-person approaches. What if I get kicked out of the yoga studio? What if the instructor complains and it's like, "Oh, this guy's hitting on me"? And I'm like, so? Go ahead and kick me out of the yoga studio. I'll go pay some other yoga studio to do yoga there. I don't care. I'm going to go after the things I want and try to be as nice as possible. I have great conversations. I try not to bother anybody.
The dumb thing is, when I was being indirect, trying to be a nice guy who doesn't bother anybody or ask girls out, two girls managed to complain at my last yoga studio when I didn't even ask any of them if they were single. They just made stupid things up. And then I got to this yoga studio I'm at now. The bottom line is that lots of times our fears are kind of stupid. I felt bad at the last yoga studio because I was like, I wish I'd just been asking girls if they were single. I wish I'd been more direct. And then if they're like, "Stop hitting on girls at our yoga studio," I'd be like, "I'll go somewhere else then." Because I'm going to hit on girls wherever I go. I'm single. There are a lot of single women out there, and a lot of them are waiting for somebody to hit on them. Now, some of them certainly are hoping nobody will hit on them, but you can't tell until you make an effort.
Seeing women clearly: assets and liabilities
And I'm grateful. It's like the more I feel good, the more I embody and am loving my life, the better everything gets. My money's coming in. I have a couple of women I'm trying to schedule Saturday night with. And I have a woman I talked to on the phone that I had a first date with. I talked to her last night, and I had an emotional reaction talking to her. She said some things that I was really feeling. I'm like, I like her. At the same time, though, I feel like I'm thinking clearly now, because I enjoyed talking with her, but I also realized, okay, there's some definite stuff that's not in a good spot with her. I'm seeing her assets and her liabilities clearly. And for a lot of my dating in the last month, the last year, I have not been seeing women clearly, both assets and liabilities. I was way too focused on assets, or for most, way too focused on liabilities.
So I have a leaderboard now, just like I do on my website. On my website, those of you who spend the most money get your spot on the leaderboard, and you can customize your profile with your name and picture. Well, I've got a leaderboard for women now, and the woman I talked to last night is number one on my leaderboard currently. I'm rooting for her. I'm rooting that things go well, but I'm not going to be able to see her for at least a week and a half, so I've got some other women I'm going to be trying to go out with in the meantime.
One of the things she said is that she really enjoys her single life, and she sees her friends just give up everything when they start dating a guy, and she doesn't want to do that. She said that dating has been inconvenient for her, and there were times where she invested so much that it would have been better if she hadn't even tried at all. And I said, "I hear you. At the same time, it's worth it. Dating is going to be one of the most worthwhile things you can possibly do in your life." There's no area where you can get higher rewards than dating. None. And your work is not going to mean anything next to dating.
Nothing more worthwhile than my kids
I was lying in bed this morning. My kids and I all have one big room. They've got their two twin beds on one side, and I've got my king bed. They all like to sleep in the same room, and I think that's normal. I think human beings normally like to sleep around other human beings. It helps you relax, all go to sleep, and feel safe. Same thing with dating: when you're dating somebody, you like to sleep together. So I look over at my kids in the morning when the light comes on, and I'm like, there's nothing more worthwhile I've done in my life than contribute to having these two kids and then continue to parent them.
Yes, my YouTube videos, I love them. I'm proud of them. I'm really grateful for everybody who supports me, who schedules time to talk with me. I've got dating coaching up if you want that now, and I'll really rub that in every hater's face when somebody buys it. And YouTube coaching, same thing. I'll rub that all over in the haters' faces when somebody buys that.
What I love is that I'm glad I have these kids, because if today was my last day, the kids and the relationship I had with my ex-wife and my family are the things that really matter. My work, I love my work. I just had an awesome conversation for over an hour; that's how this dude got on the leaderboard. I learned a bunch of new stuff. At the same time, though, the things that really matter are depth. This woman said on the call how important depth is. And you go deepest when you're dating somebody, literally. That's what matters so much, because you can get shallow with anybody. You can get a little depth with a lot of people, but the depth you get in dating, you just don't get that in any other relationship. Maybe you get close to it with parents. Maybe you get close to it with kids. But there's nothing more worthwhile I can do than date.
Why I'm asking everyone out, even with a date scheduled
I think it's silly that what I'm doing right now seems to be working so well. I have a date scheduled for tomorrow, and I knew I had the date scheduled before I went to yoga, and I'm there trying to get more numbers and more dates while I'm at yoga. What's silly is that people would think of that as, "Well, you're winning, you're doing the right thing, that's what you should be doing." I think with the woman who's number one on my leaderboard, it'd be ideal if I just focused totally on her. But that's what I did with the queen, and it didn't work at all. It was a disaster. I intentionally cut out talking to the other women, and now I've intentionally cranked it up as much as possible. Everywhere I go, if there's someone I'm interested in, I'm asking, "Are you single? I'd love to take you out on a date." And it's funny, it makes it easy to ask women out when I'm asking so many women out. Rejection, it's like, so? So what? She said no. I'm going to just ask the next one.
I had a nice morning taking my son and my daughter to school. She was really quiet this morning. I think about what she's doing at middle school and what that's like. That's a big transformation.
The casino story I told her
Oh, and last night too, the conversation was really beautiful. The woman is so smart. She knows these other languages and she's got such great stories. I asked her to tell me an interesting story, so she's like, "Why don't you tell me one of your interesting stories?" I'm like, oh boy, I got myself into this. So I told her a story from when I lived with my parents. When I was 25, I was working for the census in 2010. This is the last full-time job I had, 40 hours a week. I was a supervisor at the census. I worked a full week and I really needed to unwind, and I just didn't want to be bothered. So I walked out of the house with printed MapQuest directions. She's like, "Oh, you're dating your story with that." I am, yeah. Printed MapQuest directions. I left my phone at my parents' house. They were sitting right there in the living room, and I literally walked out without saying anything, shut the door, got in my car, and drove off, leaving my phone at home.
Then I went to the casino, which was about a 90-minute drive away. I made a couple of wrong turns, used the MapQuest directions to get back on track, and got to the casino. I had a free room there. I brought $300 with me in cash, and I turned that into over a thousand dollars. I hit on the three-card table. I got a royal flush on the three-card table. I remember I just put my head down on the table laughing when I saw my cards, and I gave everybody at the poker table a hundred dollars. There were several other people playing three-card there, and I just gave them all hundred-dollar chips. I'm like, "I got so much. Y'all are getting wrecked. Here's a hundred for you, and a hundred for you." Then I lost a little money on some of the other games. I played craps until seven in the morning. And I was drinking the whole night too, starting as soon as I got to the casino: drink, drink, drink, drink, drink. I had a nice meal at the buffet there as well.
Then I went to my hotel room at seven in the morning. I remember I just launched myself onto the bed and passed out immediately. Then at like 1 PM, the housekeeper came in and I shot up out of the bed. She's like, "Oh my God," because I was supposed to have checked out. And I just walked out of the room, because I'm like, I'm not paying whatever it would be, like a hundred dollars, for the hotel for another night. I'm not doing that. So I just walked out of the room. Then I think I threw up in the sink, and then I threw up in one of the bathrooms. Then I went downstairs and had lunch. And then I'm like, damn, I'm too hungover and drunk to drive home still. I need to sleep, though. So I went in the bathroom. I'm like, damn it, let's try this. I tried to put my head on my hands while sitting on the toilet. I'm just like, come on. And I was in that bathroom for one to three hours trying to sleep. As soon as I'd fall asleep, though, my head would start slipping off my hands and I'd wake up jerking awake on the toilet. Damn it. And there was this guy who sounded like Samuel L. Jackson who kept coming into the bathroom and being on the phone. I'm like, how am I supposed to listen to Samuel L. Jackson on the toilet while I'm trying to sleep in this casino?
After a few hours, the food kicked in. I hit a critical threshold where I still felt sick, and it was not a good idea to drive home in that state, but I drove home to my parents' house and got there safely. They were pissed when I got home. My dad's like, "Boy, you gotta be shitting me. You just walked out of this house, left your phone. Your mother and I were worried about you. We didn't know what the hell you were doing or if you were coming back. If you do that again, you can just keep going and not come back." I was like, "Sorry. Yeah, that was kind of rude." And it's funny, I didn't even think of it. I just knew I didn't want to be bothered. I didn't want my parents giving me shit about going to the casino. I didn't want to try to be texting girls or anything. I had some girls I was dating around there, and I just wanted to be left the fuck alone to go to the casino and focus on gambling and drinking.
And that's the story I told this woman who's beautiful, very intelligent, has a great job, and is thinking about dating me. Y'all think that was a good story? She said she wanted a travel story, and to me that's a funny-ass travel story. Trying to fucking sleep on the casino toilet. So that's how I'm rolling right now. Well, that's not how I'm rolling right now. That was 15, 16 years ago. And that's why I'm sober. That's why I don't go to the casino. I don't play around with that stuff now.
Being authentically myself
I'm super grateful for where I'm at. Super grateful. And it's nice. I feel like I'm being authentically myself, and it's easier to accept when things don't go your way if you're being yourself. It's like, oh well. What sucks is when you're trying to act weird or be different to get something, and you don't get it anyway. It's like, I might as well have been myself.
So I'm going to peace out and make this vlog a little shorter. I think I've said everything that's important. I'm going to go to this Alcoholics Anonymous meeting and hope nobody punches me tonight. It's a men's meeting, though, so it'll be cool. Thank you for your love and support.
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