It's August 21st, 2026, and you're here with me, full-time YouTuber Jerry Banfield. I always hope my videos entertain you and keep you guessing — you won't know what's coming next. Unpredictable, and very real, raw, and authentic.
So what's alive and well for me today? Well, I just texted six women that I'm working on having dates with, or that I've already had a date with and I'm trying to get another one. That included sending the queen a message asking if she wanted to take a walk this weekend. You know what? Whatever happened before doesn't matter that much. I'd love to see her again. And I've got several other women too. One woman said, "Thanks for the message, but I'm not available for that. Thanks for sharing." She sent that a couple of days ago, and I'm like, well, you're welcome — let's see if you're available today for a walk. I like taking walks with women; to me, a walk is a great first date. And it's funny — it's nice to kind of diversify my emotions between messaging. I also have a woman I have a date with tonight. So that's seven different women I'm interested in going out with, and it feels good. I feel very grateful for it all.
A Night at Sober Bar and a $30 Tip
One of the things I was thinking about came out of the men's AA meeting last night, where I shared at an even more authentic, crazier, more graphic level than I do here. There was a guy there, and afterward, he and I went to a place called Sober Bar in Gulfport. We had a great time. We sat at the bar and chatted with the bartender. It's all sober drinks in there — no alcohol, and no THC or Kratom or Kava or any of that either. They have food that's good. It felt really nice to just be out. He's not working that much right now, and I made over $300 yesterday, which I was really grateful for. So I told him, I got you.
I managed to spend over $100 at Sober Bar. I got three non-alcoholic drinks and he got one, I bought his food and my food, and I gave a $30 tip on top of it. He's like, "Bro, why would you give a $30 tip?" I'm like, because it's abundant. Because I got it. If you got it, better flaunt it. Because, like T.I. said, you can have whatever you like. Because I got credit, baby. Because YOLO. And because the bartender I gave that $30 tip to essentially put on a great show — she had a great conversation with us and with the other people there, she made the drinks, it was fun, and there weren't many other people there to tip her either. So it felt good to give that tip. Why wouldn't I tip $30? I'd feel cheap tipping less than that. I think the total cost was around $80 and I gave about a $30 tip, and I feel so good tipping. When you have enough money, there's just a desire to share it with other people. And I feel like everything is starting to blow up for me financially, and I'm super grateful for that.
You all loved that vlog I did a couple of days ago, the one I titled "At 1 AM I Sent This One Last Message." That title was AI. I use AI to roll through everything I do. I ran AI through everything I said in the video and told it, find the most clickbait, best title for this — one that gives you an idea of what the emotional payoff is in the video. So I don't even know what the title is going to be while I'm filming. AI is incredible.
Oh man, Jerry, this vlog is all over the place — texting girls, AI, the bar. I also invited another guy friend out to Sober Bar last night, and he's like, "Oh, I can't make it, I got plans." And it's cool. I felt a little emotional — I would have liked to see him. But it's funny how emotionally invested I was with all these women before, and now it's like, hey, this is just a person I'm inviting to do something in my life. And I love having women in my life. I'm finally enjoying and having fun with the dating process. Being diversified is working well right now. But I hope to be all in with one woman someday. And I'll let her choose me. Instead of me telling a woman that she's my queen, I'm going to let her say that I'm her king. I'll let her choose me before I let go of any of the other women.
And it's fun. The uncertainty of it is fun. The tension is fun. My friend was telling me, "Man, I just kissed this girl and I felt so nervous." I'm like, good — that's tension. That's what you want to have attraction. You want tension, that "ooh, there's this tense energy" feeling. That's what makes it fun. Anticipation is often more satisfying — or more punishing — than the thing itself. Like when you're in trouble with your parents and they're telling you what's going to happen: often knowing the punishment is coming is worse than actually dealing with it.
Leading My Kids With Love, Not Threats
I don't do that with my kids. I don't punish my kids. I don't threaten my kids. I just support them and work with my kids as equals and lead by example. I lead as a grown man who leads, and my kids follow. And what's amazing with this approach is they just get up, get ready for school, and go to school. I love it. I remember arguing with my ex about this. I'm like, stop threatening and controlling the kids. She's a great woman — if she had her own video, she could share her side of the story, but she doesn't. But I was annoyed. I'm like, I hate how you control the kids with this threatening, this manipulation, all the time. You don't have to do that.
What I love now is that I have the kids Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and I see them most other days, and I parent the kids how I want to. I say, look, kids, this is where I'm going. Follow me. This is where I'm at. Let's go. And I help them see they're making choices. If they want to stay home from school, I tell the kids: you can stay home from school any day, for any reason, I don't care. Just understand that if you stay home from school too many days, you're going to have to make some changes — you might not be able to go to that school anymore. And it's amazing: they almost never want to stay home from school, and they're incredibly healthy. They're following my example. I'm incredibly healthy, the kids are incredibly healthy, and we hardly ever have fights or anything with each other. I get along so smoothly with my kids.
I'm just so excited that another woman is going to get to experience an even better version of me than my ex did. And I see how important it is that I lead in the relationship, because I love my leadership. My leadership is solid. I love my parenting — my parenting is so solid. Even when I'm having a hard time, I take care of my kids and do fun stuff for them. It's amazing, and I love it. I'm grateful that the way I wanted to parent my kids — which my ex was not on board with — is now how I get to do it. In the morning, they take a little while to get ready, and I just make requests and persist: okay, kids, can we leave now? Can we get out the door? It's 8:10, can we leave now? I don't have to threaten them or say I'm going to take away video games if they don't get out the door. I hate that. I can't stand that threat-based, fear-based parenting. I love that I parent and lead with love. And I'm excited to do that in my next relationship too. I'm going to lead that relationship with love and joy and being a partner, and it's going to be great.
A Dating Leaderboard and a $327 Day
I just made a dating video today talking about how I made a leaderboard for the women I'm dating. What's funny is that it kind of sounds ridiculous on the surface, but it's honest and it's working. The women shift places on the leaderboard every day, and it's gotten fun. I remember earlier this year I wasn't having fun dating — I was suffering, I was being miserable. Now I'm having fun dating and I'm having fun with my business. I'm so glad somebody came in yesterday — you can see them on the leaderboard of jerrybanfield.com — and they spent $327 on my website in a single day. It was awesome. That financial support seems like it's coming in abundantly.
I'm also thinking about how Who Are These Podcasts brought so many viewers across several of my channels. I'm like, how do I replicate that? How do I find more channels that will react to my content? I have reaction-worthy content. I'd be happy to pay a channel hundreds of dollars — a channel with an audience the size of Who Are These Podcasts — for a single video, off my business credit card, to react to my content. Even though a lot of the videos they made try to make me sound bad with whatever they say in the thumbnail, and even though the queen was apparently either aware of them or watching them herself, and even though some of you might view it as negative, toxic publicity — it's still publicity. I will take it. And I wonder if I could actually get some positive publicity too. I'd pay channels to react to my content because I know my content is special. It's a little different. It's authentic. All you have to do is see me one time and you're going to go check it out yourself. I'm grateful for that, and I'm happy.
It's amazing how abundant I feel in dating, and how that abundance spreads over into my finances. I have at least seven women right now that I'm pursuing. I'm not chasing too hard — I'll often send a text maybe once a day, a fun, flirty text, consistently. I want to meet in person. That's always what I'm trying to do: I want to meet you in person, when can I meet you in person? If I can't see a woman in person — like the number one woman on my leaderboard, who I can't see in person for a week — then every text is designed to increase her attraction, to show her I'm putting in effort, and to get her ready to meet in person when she gets back. At the same time, I've got a date with another woman tonight, and I'm hoping she can take the number one spot. I'm hoping we have so much fun that maybe tomorrow she'll be number one on my leaderboard.
And it's fun to me. What's essential is to have fun. I went out last night, and yes, I spent a hundred dollars and I had a little bit of sugar in my drinks, but I had fun. I came home and I'm like, that was awesome. Now, my mind was saying: oh, for a dude that's borrowing money every month and plotting out cash advances and balance transfers, you shouldn't be out spending a hundred dollars just having fun buying another guy drinks — a guy who's in some ways in a better financial position than me. He's making less money, but he also doesn't have any debt, and his expenses are really low too. So you could argue he probably should have bought me stuff. But no — he was hesitant. He's like, "Oh, I don't want to pay like $20 for a drink." I'm like, bro, I got you. Get whatever you want, I'll buy it. Because when I take a woman out, I'm going to buy her stuff too.
And I love when a dude takes me out. A month or so ago — maybe two months ago — this guy and I went out to Grand Hacienda. My meal was only like $15 probably, but he paid for it, and it felt so good. I love when somebody takes me out and pays for me to eat. It just feels good. It feels good to give, it feels good to receive, and it feels good to observe kindness and generosity too. To me, we should all be maximizing that — maximizing what we're giving, maximizing what we're open to receiving. I'm grateful I've opened my website up to receiving a lot more, and people are giving. It feels like the more abundant my dating life is, the more abundant my finances are along with it.
Dating Is the Hook
It's funny — so many people said, oh, you shouldn't be dating. You've got kids. You have a family. You have a business. You need to get your finances right. I'm like, no — dating is the most fun part of my life right now. And the more fun I have dating, the more fun I have in my business, and the better content I'm going to create. Me dating has been the hook that has brought a lot of new people in. I've got dating coaching on jerrybanfield.com now, and I am so thrilled to see whoever buys that first month of dating coaching. It's already making my day just thinking about somebody buying that. That's the secret to manifestation: to feel joy and excitement and anticipation now for what's coming.
And I'm playing tennis. Oh — so that's eight women, because there's a woman at tennis. I think they just matched us up again today. Let's go. I'm going to be more clear with her. I got her phone number and tried to schedule tennis, and I invited her to do something else, but today I'm going to ask. I'm not going to say, "Look, I think you're single, is that correct?" I'll probably say, hey, you're super friendly — you're giving me a lot of single vibes. And then we'll see. If she's like, "Oh, I got a boyfriend," then okay — I may not try as hard to play tennis with her, but tennis is still something I want to do, man or woman. That's something that's valuable by itself.
This one woman wanted to be friends with me, but I'm like, we don't have anything to do. I want to date you, but as a friend, you and I have like nothing to do between the two of us. What would we do? I don't want to be friends with women anymore. The women I already have as friends, I'll keep. But I honestly don't want to make new women friends, because when I have another woman who is going to be my wife and have kids with me, I don't want to be that husband who's got all these women as friends. This guy recently was sharing how he was interacting with these women at work, and one of them sent him a picture — and he's already got a girlfriend. That's just a bad situation. I don't want to get into having a crush on another woman again when I'm enjoying going to yoga right now, because then I'd probably stop going to yoga flows. Or I'll go to a yoga studio where it's married women, gay guys, old ladies, straight guys, whatever. I'm going to try to avoid being around attractive women, especially in an environment where something could happen. Because I want to be more loyal than I was with my ex-wife. I want to be a better husband next time than I was last time. And to me, that's what keeps me going in life: I want to do better. I want to have more fun. I want to have more joy. I'm always excited, curious about the next thing that's going to happen. I'm really excited for where my life's going.
Transmitting Emotion
That's what I hope transmits, because one thing I'm good at is transmitting emotion — and emotion is so important. Take this one woman I just invited out for a walk. She said, "No, I'm not available for that. Thank you for sharing though." And I take that as an invitation: I'm going to invite you out for another walk until you say yes, or until you say stop messaging me. I left her feeling an intense amount of emotion. She was very upset, but she also seemed pretty turned on. She was mad last time I saw her — she could hardly talk. A lot of us try to avoid any situation where we catch serious feelings, but to me it's important to be able to handle feelings, and anyone who can inspire a lot of feelings in you — that's someone who might be special. It's kind of rare for people to make me feel anything. The average person doesn't make my heart move at all. And the current woman who's number one on my leaderboard nearly brought me to tears in a phone conversation with what she was saying. It wasn't the words. It was just the beauty of everything she said and what it meant, and the little insight into her life it offered. I was like, man, this is a beautiful woman inside and out — heart, mind, and body. That's so beautiful. At the same time, I was also looking at the liabilities, the downsides. I hope this works out, but I'm not going all in on her until she's ready to go all in on me. What a beautiful experience, though — having emotions, having feelings, and combining that with logic and reason. That's the human experience to me.
Many people have been critical about the amount of feelings I have. But one reason I've been able to be successful on YouTube — to start six new channels and get over a half million views and five-plus million impressions, five-plus million times my videos showed on brand new channels, and you know how unusual that is — the secret to that is that I have a heart and I'm able to communicate emotion in my videos. That's why a lot of us go to movies: because we want to feel something. We watch TV shows because we want to feel something. I make videos that I hope help you feel something. My goal with my videos is to get you excited for life.
The Moment at the Tire Place
And oh my God — I went to the tire place yesterday, and I forgot to mention this in my vlog, but I watched something that totally turned my mind upside down about something I've had really long-held beliefs about. I'm not going to mention it specifically — if you want to ask me about what it is in my chat at jerrybanfield.com, I'll be happy to tell you there — but you can see what you think. It's amazing how in life you can be in a situation where you've thought a certain way your entire life, and one thing you see or hear leaves you disoriented and thinking, oh my God, I have no idea. In one moment, your whole perspective on reality shifts. Where you thought somebody was the bad guy, all of a sudden you're like, wow, this guy's a hero — a saint. Someone who's been villainized and demonized as much as you could want, and it's like, wow, this person had some serious virtues, and in a certain light, they are a saint. It's like, whoa — what else don't I know? And then to look around and feel like, if there's an imperial system and a rebellion, we're in the imperial system. We are the conquering, oppressive side that dominated and destroyed everybody else and everybody else's opinion — that absolutely crushed and annihilated all kinds of other ways of life. That's the victor's-right history. It's kind of sad where we are today in a lot of ways, but it's also like: let's make the most we can out of it.
Video Games Again, and a Great Lifestyle
So, it's time to go pick my son up from school and hang out with him. I also played some video games today, for the first time in about a month. I got sour on video games the last night I played, when I livestreamed Buried on the Jerry Banfield Games channel — that was the night the queen had first started to pull away, and I felt so sad while I was gaming, and I hadn't played any games since. I wanted to play first thing last night, but I was ready for bed when I got home. So I got up today and thought, first thing, I'm playing some video games. And it's funny, because at a lot of points in the past I thought I had a video game addiction and all this stuff. But today it was just: I haven't played in a month and I really want to play some video games. So I hopped on the PlayStation 5 and it was so fun — and after about 30 minutes, I was like, all right, I'm ready to do my work.
It's really nice to be able to play video games, have fun, date women, and make money online. It's a great lifestyle, and that's what I'm trying to help all of you get — to share it and inspire you that you can build the life of your dreams. If you want to follow this whole journey day by day, it's all in my Daily Vlogs playlist.
I know some of you think I'm an insane person, but others of you think I'm a genius. So if you think I'm a genius, get closer to me: join my chat, schedule a call with me and talk, join the Skool community — get in there.
And if you think I'm insane, maybe one day you'll see the genius in it. Hope to see you tomorrow.