Why a Shirt Beats a Cold Approach
Men, here's how to approach women with the shirt you're wearing and literally have women just handing you their phone numbers who've already pre qualified themselves by seeing the shirt you're wearing. I've never seen anyone before go in and show you what I'm doing right now. So I am super excited to show you this right here because this is incredible. And you can do this for practically free. And if you've been tired of going around feeling like you're at all these places and women aren't noticing you, wear a shirt like this. Because this says, I know you're tired of the usual, that you're not the regular dude who just is a boring dude who thinks like everybody else.
It shows a level of confidence.
What My Shirt Actually Says
Do you see what the shirt says? It says, Dear Single Ladies, I am a YouTuber with two kids who wants more. Give me your number. And then on the shoulders, it says sober on one shoulder and single on the other. Single on another. And then it's reprinted on the back of the shirt. You see this? It is reprinted on the back of the shirt because a girl in a grocery store might be standing behind me, might be a beautiful single mom who wants more kids, who we would not talk. You and I, we wouldn't talk otherwise. But then she sees my shirt and she's like, oh my God, and you've been waiting for this moment for all my life.
And then the plunger's like, damn, bro, I finally made it in the video. I made it in the video. So picture the woman of your dreams is standing behind you in the grocery store, but you're wearing a boring shirt. And look at the confidence it has to have this on the back of your shirt. Now, if some of you are thinking, no, I couldn't wear a shirt like that. Why not? Are you going to do whatever it takes to go out there and get women? Because these days, especially I'm a divorced dad and I'm around hot women. All the time. But these girls are on headphones.
Some of them expect me to approach them. Others of them will be horrified or not give me any positive signals to approach them. And they expect me to peacock and to get them to notice me. And I got to be the woman and get chased. It's a tough time we're living in where there's confusing standards, where some women will not do anything other than, give you a little eye contact, a little body language. And it's subtle and it's hard to notice, especially if they're, there's 50 hot girls in the yoga studio. How am I even supposed to see which one of those girls is interested in me? If you are worn out by these confusing signals and unsure how to even read the room anymore, you can schedule a private call with me and we will talk through how I am navigating it as a single dad.
I've talked about how strange this stage of life feels in I Can't Date Like I Did 15 Years Ago, and the shirt is my answer to it.
I often miss the signs. I'm busy these days while people are so on their headphones. Like imagine, take a shirt like this to the gym. Go work out at the gym with this shirt. I've just watched a bunch of videos of girls who are talking that, man, I'm tired of guys not picking me up at the gym. But from my point of view, how do I know that you want me to pick you up? And that you're not going to be, be all upset when I try and pick you up. When you got your headphones on, covering your ears up, how do I know that you want me to pick you up?
Why It's Still on Men to Make the Move
So men, it's up to us to approach still. It's up to us as a man to say, look, this is what I want in my life. I want single ladies to notice me. If you think I'm hot, then keep reading. That's just understood.
How I Built the Shirt
So what I did to create this shirt, and I don't think you should copy a shirt like I've got here. You should make your own kind of shirt. Let's start a trend. Dear single ladies, that becomes a trend. I started it. If it becomes a trend, I started it. If somebody else has already started it, let me know. Cause this just came in my head. I was watching one of Owen Cook's videos about attraction. I'm like, I need a shirt. What I'm missing is a shirt. Cause I'm not going to go out there and ask a girl if she's a vibe. Are you a vibe?
No, that's dumb. I'm not going to do that. Cause it's stupid, but I'll put on a shirt. That might work for him, but I'm going to put on a shirt. I am direct. And as men, I think this is up to us to be direct and be clear about what we want. I've been watching a bunch of videos that these dudes put together of women complaining that they're like, where are the single men at? And I'm like, girl, I'm at yoga. I'm getting a massage. I'm walking around the park. I'm out with my kids. I'm all over. But I realized that I'm walking right by women who would be great for me.
And they just don't know. And I'm not going to go up to some mom. I've been through a lot. I've done it. And this is why I'm not going to do it. I'm tired of going up to these moms and then I don't see a wedding ring. And then I'm trying to figure out and have all this indirect conversation. And I'm tired of being direct because I've walked up to girls and been very direct before. And I'm tired of doing that too. So the shirt, the shirt is a nice way in this day and age to get out there and say, look, this is who I am.
This is what I want. And what's nice. It says, give me your number. It says what to do. I'm giving women invitation to approach. Me. And that way, though, if the one if a girl sees this is like, oh, then she just doesn't have to say anything like I'm not threatening her standing in front of her at the grocery store with a shirt like this. She can just pretend. But here's the cool thing. This shirt will draw reactions from women who aren't even interested in me, who might not have taken any notice of me wearing some regular shirt. But they see this and they're like, oh, what is going on with this fella here?
You'll notice it says. I'm sober and I'm single on the arms because I tried to get this for writing for designing your shirt. You want to have the least amount of words possible to do the job. But you need to communicate all the important things. You're like, is he going to say that twice like that? Yes. You need to communicate all the important things. Thanks. So first, I'm addressing my audience. If you're a single lady. You can read my shirt. If you're not, this ain't for you. So you can see right here. Clearly. I don't know why I'm pointing at a picture of myself instead of pointing at a real version of me that's talking right now.
So you can see it says, dear single ladies. That's my audience.
Every Word Is a Filter
Then what is interesting about me? This is a filter. Just like the word sober is a filter. If a girl's like, ew, he's sober. Then I don't, I don't want you to approach me. So I've got the word sober on my arm because I don't, I was too much. To try and put all that in there. So I boiled it down. It says, I'm a YouTuber. That's 10. That's a filter. A lot of girls don't want to be with a YouTuber. They might want kids. They might like a guy that's sober, but they, and they don't want to be with a YouTuber. But some girls like, ew, you're a YouTuber.
I'm so turned on now. Yes. You, you. Yeah. You. So it says, I'm a YouTuber because people want to know, well, what do you do? Does a man have a passion? Does he have a job? Yes. I'm a YouTuber. I've made thousands of videos. I deleted more subs than most people will ever have. Deleted hundreds of thousands of subs because I'm tired of those old channels. That's why I made this and four other new ones. And then next filter, I have two kids. So girl, if you're looking for a fella that doesn't have kids, I'm not your man. Cause I got two already. So I want a girl that likes that I'm a YouTuber who's sober is okay.
Or even sees that me having two kids is good. Because it shows I've already got two kids. I've already done this before. And then it says, who wants more? I want more. I want, I have two kids and I want more. So that's a very specific filter. And that's what you need to do is you need to figure out what specifically is unique that you are looking for. This is also a value proposition because now I might come across a hundred, two hundred, three hundred, five hundred, six hundred, a thousand, a hundred thousand, 80 million girls. But all it takes is to get that one. If you want help working out the few words that are truly unique to you, you can schedule a one-on-one call with me and we'll figure out your own filters together.
That's like chit ching. A guy with a job. Yeah, you got a job, man. Now this isn't, nah, it's not. That's how it's a job. And it's a job because it has paid my bills for the last decade. So this job shows I'm a man with a job, with a purpose, with a plan. I already have two kids. Social proof. You want proof? Poof. Social proof. And then I want more because just saying I'm a dad, you see how specific this is and how simple it is. And I talk back and forth with ChatGPT for five, ten minutes to figure this out. I'm like, look, I want to dump all this stuff on a shirt, but simplify it.
Cut the words down to the minimum. And then ChatGPT comes out and says, more words. I'm like, no, we don't need that word. So I thought about every word in this shirt. Dear single ladies, dear makes it playful. And I want you to think about the words in your shirt.
Make Your Own With a Sharpie
Go to the thrift shop, get a shirt, get a marker, a Sharpie, and just write on the shirt and try it. And then you can upgrade and buy a nicer version. I'm going to get a nicer version of this because this took a while to do this. But you can just get some Sharpies, write on a shirt, and all of a sudden, every time you go out, you're hunting. Every time you go out. But you don't have to cold approach anymore. The idea with this shirt is if a girl reads this and sees she's single, check, he's a YouTuber. I like that. He has kids.
This is the same playful spirit I bring to everything in Make Dating Fun Again, because the second this stops feeling fun you stop showing up.
I like that. He wants more kids. I like that. He's sober. I like that. And she says, I like that to four different things. And then it says, give me your number. Like, I'm not playing around out here. I'm not just trying to talk or have a shallow conversation. I'm direct. Give me your number. Like, just literally, I'm making it super easy for her to just hand me her phone or take my phone and be like, put your number in. Let's go out. Because I'm tired of being around all these hot girls. So many beautiful girls in their 20s, in their 30s. So many hot girls.
And I guarantee you, I've probably been around 50 different women. 50 different women who would have liked this shirt and would have given me their phone number. But I was wearing other shirts. Those are 50 opportunities I missed. And if I went out with all 50 of those women or tried to call them and filter down, I probably would have three different women could be my second wife already just because I wasn't wearing this shirt. But you know what? Now I figured it out. I'm like, I got to be out there. My mind solved this problem. And it solved it for you, too. You need to be out there and be capitalizing on real estate.
If you want to see how I keep working through this in real time, I share the whole journey in my my Dating playlist.
It's just ridiculous to be wearing a shirt promoting someone else's brand when you could be telling every woman what you want. And you could be signaling that you're not the usual regular. Let me touch you. Go feel something unusual. Right? Like, this is special. And this signals I'm a special man. And even if a girl's not interested in me personally, she might read this and be like, hey, I got a friend. I might get a girl that walks up to me like this and is like, hey, you got to meet my girlfriend because she would love this. You see, now all of a sudden if I'm around 100 women and women are seeing this shirt, then I'm effectively reaching thousands of women who have friends.
And if I hit the right woman with this shirt, it's like jackpot, baby. I paid $7 500 for a matchmaking service. And I'm like, I can't just tell other people that that's the way to go. I got a date lined up for that in six days. I'm like, but I'm getting lazy because of that. So I've thought, like, I need to be out here trying to pick girls up all the time. I've got this AA picnic I'm going to. And I'm like, what am I going to wear? What you wear is one of the most important choices you make in your life. And this, you wear a shirt like this.
Now, if you're not sure where to put on the shirt, you can do the same thing I did. Dump all the things you might think about you that are special, that are unique. That you want. And tell ChatGPT to simplify it and get it down to the least words possible. Then write that on a shirt. See how easy this is?
Wearing It Takes Real Courage
And then it takes confidence to go out and wear a shirt like this in public. Because this is vulnerable. Yes, I might get a girl that comes up to me and is like, ew, you a creep. Or whatever. Whatever could have happened. But this is very vulnerable. It's like I just took my ribs off and I'm walking around with my open heart beating out. Like, yes, here's who I am. This is my life. This is what I want. It's very vulnerable. And it's very strong. Because you know a fella is special that can handle the strength of going out and being like, this is who I am.
And if you want a part of it, give me your number. I tell you, there are women that are just going to pass out seeing this shirt when I wear it. They're like, oh, my God. I've been looking all over. I know so many girls who have told me that they have all these girlfriends that are amazing and they just can't find a guy. And today, we're having a problem where people are walking by you. They're looking at each other and they're so zoned out. So this solves it. And men, it's up to us to solve it. It's up to us to get clear and hold the space and project what we want.
And then from there, we got to honor the environment.
Turning Cold Rooms Into Warm Leads
This is an environment that is not friendly to cold approaches these days. I know because I've tested and I've talked to girls everywhere. But this makes warm leads. And if you want other things warm, then you need warm leads to start with. So I'm really excited. I will be updating you as to how this shirt goes. I'm going to this picnic where there's going to be a bunch of sober girls there. This shirt I am imagining will be in a good position to get me multiple phone numbers. And I don't have to start some stupid conversation asking superficial crap that, look, if you don't care about this, I don't want to talk to you.
This is the mindset. You want to go out with a shirt like, look, if you're a single woman who likes this, I want your number. Let's go out. If you're not, next, don't waste my time. Because this shirt filters for time wasters. Like go into a place where there's a bunch of women. I don't want to waste time with girls that I tell them I'm a YouTuber and they're like, ew, I don't like your dating videos. I don't want to be a part of them. Or ew, you have kids. I don't want kids. Or you want more kids. I don't want kids. Good. Don't talk to me so that I can have space for the one girl that's like, yes, I won the lottery.
Yeah. My man. My hair. That's what you want. Honor your time. Be bold. Be direct. Own who you are. We can personalize this. You can tell me your whole story. Let's go, baby.